Posted 05 December 2010 - 11:31 AM
Hi everyone,I've been an IBS(A) sufferer for 10+ yrs and a member of this website for ~7 yrs. I've been an avid reader of this forum but haven't contributed much; mainly because I felt I didn't have anything meaningful to contribute. So, after not providing any real input, I am selfishly asking for yours.Although I've been suffering with IBS for 10+ yrs, I've had it mostly under control for the last 2. So much so that I finally felt confident enough to get back into the dating game. So armed with my newly found confidence, off I went into the jungle!It didn't take long for the IBS reality to kick-in....I encountered the many stresses and obstacles discussed frequently in these forums; when/how to reveal the dark secret, making excuses (aka lies) as to why I'm always only having small portions when eating out (not hungry, just ate a little while ago, etc), fretting about easy, immediate access to washrooms, the 1st formal supper with her parents, excusing myself (again, with another lie) to go pass gas, etc, etc, etc,. I've come to beleive an IBS sufferer would eventually become an anchor, or even a burden to a non-IBS sufferer; showing-up late to events, cancelling events at the last minute, leaving events early, refusing to participate in non-IBS friendly events, eg: sharing 1 bathroom cottage with several friends, etc. I'm now 99.9% convinced the only person who can live with/accept/tolerate an IBS sufferer 24x7x365 is...another IBS sufferer. I'm not reffering to situations where people are in committed, long-term, solid relationships and 1 partner develops IBS (although there are undoubtedly IBS-related relationship difficulties as well), but new/budding relationships where there is no strong emotional fondation or history yet.Anyone want to challenge my conclusions...plz!