does anyone elses parents or friends not understand or even believe your acctually are as sick as you say you are?
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Posted 06 September 2011 - 04:49 AM
Thnx Paul,But life is really miserable.. I feel ill and fatigued all the time...dnt enjoy hanging out and shopping and all this i used to enjoy in the past....dnt know if ill get married , have kids sume day or not...
I feel so sorry for you having to deal with your family like that. Have you seen a doctor about it? Maybe if your mother knows how serious it is and how much it is effecting your life she might be more understanding? As for the friends, I have lost most of mine in part due to IBS, all I will say is if they won't at least understand that you are sick and can't always do what they want then what sort of friends are they?Paul
Posted 21 September 2011 - 11:08 PM
Sally, I joined this forum, well about an hour ago and I caught your comment as I was looking through the wealth of various forums that exist here. I feel your pain as I have been dealing with IBS since I was ten-years old and it was not until I was 18 that I was FINALLY TOLD I have IBS. Prior to that I was told I had everything from a dairy allergy to I was faking because I was trying to get out of having to go to school. As I got older, I am almost 40 now, I developed GERD, had my gall bladder quit on me and I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia (sp) about 5 years ago as well. I am aware that school has already started for you and I only hope you are handling it ok. Given that this is new for you, allow me to tell you how I dealt with it when I was in school. Imodium AD or any anti diarrheal medication will hopefully still work for you, in small doses. In addition, Gas-X is a wonderful product; try taking a couple before you go to school in the morning. Also carry an OTC nausea medication with you, I use the wal-mart equivalent to Dramamine, it is inexpensive, I get 100 pills for less than 5 bucks. Also try an over the counter pain reliever for pain, personally, I use Excedrin. This is still new to you so you may be able to get away with using this stuff at least until the end of the school year .As for relationships, unfortunately, that is a difficult part. My father refused to believe I have so much wrong with me until he was able to come to terms with his own aliments and believe it or not, one of my marriages ended because my husband was tired of having a “sick wife” amongst other things. For the longest time, I swore the only one who understood was my son, because he was home with me all day and saw how often I was in the bathroom vomiting and so on, he is a empathetic child who always felt my pain and supported me, he is an amazing kid. You will meet others who suffer as well and you will meet people who may not suffer but actually care. I met my current boy friend on line and unbelievably, the reason I found this forum is because he spent close to three hours tonight, after working all day, driving to every store he could find between Fort Worth and Dallas trying to find me Imodium. He never was able to find any, hence the reason I found this forum, but if that is not love, than I do not know what is. You need to worry only about your condition and getting yourself whatever care you may need, never mind what friends or others think. Keep in mind, at your age, you will soon be able to leave home and help for people in your situation does exist, you just need to reach out to others, doctors and maybe school counselors who can offer both advice and guide in the right direction towards caring for your needs.
Hi im a 17 year old girl and i have had IBS for about a year its just recently gotten very bad. i thank God its summer so ive literally been sitting inside all day which im okay with because the first week i became sick to my stomach and dizzy with headache but also the usual IBS symptoms of diarrhea or constipation with a LOT of gas i also suffer from minor anxiety attacks.Anyways it will be my senior year next year and i would really like to just take online classes if by the end of this summer i dont feel any better. I would never take them if i wasn't sick all the time, and i dont think my mom gets it. she really thinks im exaggerating things because she has some minor stomach problems herself. when i feel good on the limited days that i do, i think that maybe i AM being dramatic but then i have a flare up for no reason and i realize i really am sick and i shouldn't go out like that. we fight constantly and i cry almost everyday except when my stomach feels better. im just not sure what to say back when she replies "you have the brain of a childish 17 year old and you cant go around manipulating people so you can get what you want" to me asking about online school. i just cant stand the thought of me sitting in school another year feeling sick and not just that but having to run out every five minutes to the bathroom or having gas. its so embarrassing because if i get gas its very hard to keep inside and the bloating is so uncomfortable i cant focus on anything. i missed about 30 days of school last year it was ridiculous. i also pay for my medical expenses because my mom is poor but continues to push me into a private school that costs 8K a year. school comes first apparently as for my friends they never understand why i need to use the bathroom so much or why i say i cant hang out so much. what do i say to these people?
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My parents think I'm 'overreacting' and it's 'all in my head'. -.- My dad was born with spina bifida (his vertebrae didn't form completely in a spot of his spine) and paralyzed from the waist down. This affected his bowel habits, so he really can't control them, yet he thinks I'm overreacting with my issues.... So I know how you feel. I get hugely stressed and the more stressed I am the faster my bowels move (my period started about 12 hours late for some reason, and over that night I was having almost a constant panic attack...I completely emptied my bowels in about three hours of diarrhea), and before my bowels move so fast, they have horrible cramping, especially soon after I've eaten.
Posted 14 April 2013 - 05:25 AM
Hand up. Parents ok, everyone else confused/unable to believe. They need more education. But hey ! who's got the time to read about OTHERS problems, ie problems which they will probably never face themselves. They got a lot of Sh!t happening in their lives and they don't need to read about anymore (pun intended).
Everytime I find the key to success, some IDIOT changes the lock.
Posted 29 April 2013 - 06:32 PM
I am lucky to have a mother that totally believes me and knows just as much about this as I do. Almost all of my family and friends know about it but dont understand the pain or undertand why I get these flareups. Education is key. They will never know the physical part but understanding the educational part is the best that they and you will ever get. I hope that things get better for you soon!
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Posted 07 June 2013 - 10:01 PM
I understand where you're coming from. I missed a lot of school and spent a lot of time in the nurses office because of tummy aches, though I didn't know then that it was IBS. I did one year of on campus college but now I do online because I worry about having flare-ups and feeling too unwell to go, which is awful.
My mom tries to tell me all of the time that it's "my nerves". She attributes any problem with me to this. I'm 22 now, but when I was 17-19 I was in a really stressful relationship with an emotionally abusive boyfriend and I would get myself worked up the point of throwing up and awful stomach aches often. But that was the situation. I get stressed, as anyone does, but I've learned to take deep breaths and move on with my day, you know? I actually called her tonight and told her about the awful pain I'm in and how I'm thinking of getting in touch with a dietitian to see if they could help and going to see the gastro doctor again when I'm up visiting next, though he was no help the previous times...I don't understand why she gets so frustrated with me! She told me I was always on the go and that's why. I literally hardly leave my apartment because i'm afraid to, which I'm sure we're all too familiar with.
She also has stomach problems. She tries to also attribute it to me being on birth control because when she started on it she had gall bladder problems and had to get it taken out and she's had problems since, which she thinks might be IBS now that she knows what it is and that I have it. I think in some ways, she empathizes, but in others she's like well I still went to work and dealt with it, you'll have to, too.
I wish I had more advice to offer you, but the fact is that most people don't understand what this is, unfortunately. The good news is that soon you'll be able to move out of your mom's house and hopefully you'll be able to find better, more understanding friends. If you ever need to talk to someone in the meantime, you can always reach out to me!