[fedupuk]

Hey everyone i am 19 and im about to start a new job and i start in 3 days but ever since i heard the news about the job i can't stop thinking of all the bad things that could happen why i am there like what if i get the urgency to go and i cant get to the toilet because i am serving customers or if i cant even turn up because im in too much pain i havnt even started yet and its making me so stressed. someone please tell me what helps them

[BQ]

Stop thinking all of those negative thoughts! Try thinkign positive ones instead.. like think abotu what the job will do for you and what plans you can make now that you have a job! I have learned negative thinking leads to more negatives and positive thinking leads to more positives.

[pslovies]

My job involves a lot meetings and conferences that I can't get out of or abruptly leave. I know how the stress and anxiety goes, so I sympathize. The best solution I have found is sharing with my boss my issue and concentrating on my current task. My best advice is just to take some deep breaths, focus on your current task and relax! You can always leave when needed - if you need to leave while serving, ask another server near by to help you out real quick. I usually tell my coworkers that I have an extremely sensitive digestive system and sometimes... I just have to go! You got to do what you got to do. Congrats and good luck with the new job! Stay positive!

[cw_2009]

How did you get on fedupuk??

pslovies, on 09 February 2012 - 07:40 PM, said:

My job involves a lot meetings and conferences that I can't get out of or abruptly leave. I know how the stress and anxiety goes, so I sympathize. The best solution I have found is sharing with my boss my issue and concentrating on my current task. My best advice is just to take some deep breaths, focus on your current task and relax! You can always leave when needed - if you need to leave while serving, ask another server near by to help you out real quick. I usually tell my coworkers that I have an extremely sensitive digestive system and sometimes... I just have to go! You got to do what you got to do. Congrats and good luck with the new job! Stay positive!

[overitnow]

Shortly after my IBS started I bought a lottery booth and snackbar that had me in front of people 10-12 hours a day. While it was not always easy, I was always able to get someone to look after it while I attended to my D, most of which Imwould have had before the doors opened. (Get up an hour early and have breakfast right away. then shower and dress for work. This will likely give you a couple of hours of D time before you leave the house.)

It is natural to worry about this; but once you are more comfortable with all of it, have a repair kit with you and focus on your customers' needs. A lot of this will take care of itself.

I hope it is all going well.

Mark

[Claireuk]

Yes I also totally understand what you feel. I agree that positive thinking probably does really help but unfortunately I have never been able to switch off my worries. Some of us can and some of us can't. I did find distraction helps quite a lot. If I start worrying then I find keeping myself busy takes my mind off it for the time being. I know that with me, the more I think about it and worry about it, the worse it gets. So I am trying to keep myself totally busy when at work so that I don't have time to think about it. If things are playing up perhaps immodium would also help you relax a bit. Best of luck
Claire

[Betty Poop]

Hello,

I know exactly how you are feeling. I have changed jobs several times over the past years and this week I started a new one which involves a lot of meetings with foreign clients and a 40 min drive to get to the office. I have been very anxious about what could go wrong so this is how I deal with it :

Get up 2 hours before I need to leave the house so that I have been able to digest breakfast and go to the loo (at least 3 times !)
Take immodium 1/2 hour before leaving the house
Always have immodium and xanax in my handbag in case of emergency and the panic that comes with it
Eat a very light lunch that will be easy to digest
First thing I did on the first day was locate all the loos

Of course I haven't been able to tell any colleagues yet as I have only just started but I usually try to explain that I have digestive problems after I have got to know them a bit.

I hope all this helps, I know the feeling of panic when trapped in a place that you can't get out of when the urgent need to go the loo starts and the pain etc............. I just take it one day at a time and each day that I get through work is a little victory.

I wish you all the best in your new job

Betty Poop

[cookies4marilyn]

This is very common for IBS patients - and I suffered this way as well. One possible option is to try hypnotherapy, (for me, the IBS Audio Program 100) which helps to break that brain-gut connection - it was helpful to me when all else (med, etc.) failed - more info in my signature. I speak to many people who have been able to get on with their lives, travel, and not worry about IBS after trying this method.

Feel free to ask me any questions - always happy to help. There IS hope...

[Nikki5389]

I have to agree with the getting up early idea. At least you can train your body to go more in the morning and most likely you'll avoid that terrible feeling of urgency we all dread. Some days I imagine will be worse than others, but your symptoms may not be as dire as other days. I was a shift worker which had me in front of customers for 11hours on average a day. While I wasn't thinking about my problem I usually got on ok. Stress doesn't help!! It is unavoidable I understand, but you really need to find a way to calm down when you feel anxious.

I'm no one to talk, I get stressed out and worried about working too. I'm 23 and finished university and my life should be just starting to take off. Instead I feel held back. Sooner or later I'm going to have to get over that and see how I go in the workforce. Try it! If you can't do the job because it's making your symptoms worse. You'll need to change jobs. But don't be put off by it. It's really disruptive to your lifestyle, so you need to work with your symptoms so you can lead as normal a life as possible. I have to say exercise is another good way for me to concentrate on something else other than IBS. The endorphins don't suck either. If you do exercise, try to do so on days you feel slightly better, because you won't feel like it on the days where you feel worse. I suggest taking vitamin supplements too, it can't hurt to provide your body with the nutrients it may not be digesting as well through the food you consume. Goodluck!