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[cw_2009]

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Why do i have to have this stupid condition, everytime i do something that is different to my usual routinue my ibs is bad.. the whole toilet thing is controlling/ruining my life. You go the doctors and they say well it is bad.... but you just have to live with it.. and carry on taking this and this... im sure you would like just to live with it when you are constantly thinking about going to the toilet.. having a accident.. and what if :-( At work i have bad days like yesterday had a really upset stomach... I am doing the hypnosis at the moment and on about day 30... hopefully this will work.. I have had this for nearly 10 years .. and nothing seems to of changed in the treatment of ibs at all in a decade..

[Goofy3987]

I ask myself that everyday. I have been taking lomotil daily and it helps but I have to get up extra early before work so it can kick in for the drive. If I go out with friends I am so scared about having an accident or a flare up.....I don't dare drink.....and right now due to this my husband and I are thinking kids are not in our future....which is okay for us and we are fine with decision but I can't imagine having severe IBs and having a kid when there are times I need to stop the car and get out quickly or the fact most parks where I live don't have bathrooms. This sucks

[LisaW]

I ask myself that everyday. I have been taking lomotil daily and it helps but I have to get up extra early before work so it can kick in for the drive. If I go out with friends I am so scared about having an accident or a flare up.....I don't dare drink.....and right now due to this my husband and I are thinking kids are not in our future....which is okay for us and we are fine with decision but I can't imagine having severe IBs and having a kid when there are times I need to stop the car and get out quickly or the fact most parks where I live don't have bathrooms. This sucks

[LisaW]

I would not let IBS be the major deciding faCTOR WHEN DECIDING TO HAVE KIDS. Have you tried several GI Dr's till you find one you like? Accupuncture and the FODMAPS diet has helped me sooo much. There are many foods I cannot eat but I can live a normal life. My children have GIVEN ME MORE JOY than I ever thought possible. Please don't let IBS ruin the chance of becoming parents. I have heard of pregnancy helping IBS. I didn't get IBS till later in life. Best of luck.Lisa

[Goofy3987]

There are other factors on that decision and neither one of us is kid people....most of the time we can't stand to be around them....and babies drive me nuts....I know we are the minority but we know it is the right decision

[rockymountaingal]

Why do i have to have this stupid condition, everytime i do something that is different to my usual routinue my ibs is bad.. the whole toilet thing is controlling/ruining my life. You go the doctors and they say well it is bad.... but you just have to live with it.. and carry on taking this and this... im sure you would like just to live with it when you are constantly thinking about going to the toilet.. having a accident.. and what if :-( At work i have bad days like yesterday had a really upset stomach... I am doing the hypnosis at the moment and on about day 30... hopefully this will work.. I have had this for nearly 10 years .. and nothing seems to of changed in the treatment of ibs at all in a decade..

I ask myself this question every day. I used to be pretty normal when it came to my bowels - gassier than other people but I could travel without worrying myself to death and my gas passed normally instead of being trapped. This has been going on for 8 1\2 years and has basically ruined my life, at least emotionally. I've got nothing to give to my relationship anymore because I'm completely obsessed with my IBS -- 24/7. It's become an absolute nightmare. Pardon the rant but I'm having a bad run of days with "surprise" diarrhea attacks and getting down on myself. Take care,

[Kelseya89]

I feel the same as you, it has completely taken over my life. I never go out anymore, and if by chance I do, I am constantly worrying and panicking that my ibs will act up. It makes me miss days from work and school too. And no one really understands what it is like. If I leave my house and I don't have imodium on me, I start to get anxiety attacks. It is really stressing me out because I have a trip to Germany coming up in March for 3 weeks and I am so worried about there not being bathrooms around and having to eat new food.

[BQ]

Yes I too have asked myself that question many times. But not so much anymore. I realized that almost every human being has "something"... I just happen to have IBS. AND.... I am critically aware that there are way worse things to have. So I don't ask why can't I be normal anymore....Shifting my focus to one more of gratitude helps me tremendously.Don't get me wrong... there are days when I lose patience with it.... but.. I am only human. Those days pass. I find I am ok feeling the 'poor me' thing if I do it only rarely and for a short time. It isn't healthy for me to dwell on it.

[clareuk]

Hi Claire, sorry to hear your still having lots of problems. I know what you mean, Doctors are useless and have no helpful advice to give. It's basically pointless even going to them about IBS. They diagnosed me as having IBS and then practically washed their hands of me. I'm also really struggling with the whole going out situation. I'm practically an agoraphobic now and can't go out my door without getting in a panic. I can get to work and home again and I'm usually ok there but I just can't go anywhere else. Especially anywhere I don't know. I don't think Doctors and the medical community really understand what damage ibs does in the long term to all of us. I worry about going out which annoys everything and then I get diarrhea anyway, so i just want to stay in as then I have no problems and no worries but it's no way to live. We've both been going through this for years and it's always nice to have someone who truely understands. Feel free to message me anytime Claire. x

[rockymountaingal]

I feel the same as you, it has completely taken over my life. I never go out anymore, and if by chance I do, I am constantly worrying and panicking that my ibs will act up. It makes me miss days from work and school too. And no one really understands what it is like. If I leave my house and I don't have imodium on me, I start to get anxiety attacks. It is really stressing me out because I have a trip to Germany coming up in March for 3 weeks and I am so worried about there not being bathrooms around and having to eat new food.

I know what you're saying but I'm sure there's "ordinary" food available. When we travel, we tend to put together meals from grocery stores that I feel comfortable eating. If we go to a restaurant, I have anxiety and frustration though there is always something I can eat. I just wish I didn't have to go through all that every time!! Then, of course, there's the unpredictable bowel situation. I do find that extra calcium helps me but it can take 2 or 3 days to kick in. Then I get constipated which is better than the opposite issue when travelling. It's just all a pain in the rear (pardon the pun).

[Balwant]

Yes I too have asked myself that question many times. But not so much anymore. I realized that almost every human being has "something"... I just happen to have IBS. AND.... I am critically aware that there are way worse things to have. So I don't ask why can't I be normal anymore....Shifting my focus to one more of gratitude helps me tremendously.Don't get me wrong... there are days when I lose patience with it.... but.. I am only human. Those days pass. I find I am ok feeling the 'poor me' thing if I do it only rarely and for a short time. It isn't healthy for me to dwell on it.

BQ loved your spirit to live life .."All human beings have something or the other problem" - this statement has so much truth in it:)Everybody has a glass half full , only I can take a decision to see it half full or half empty ... earlier I practice it ,better I will be ...May God give everybody the strength to go through IBS .Loads of Love and blessings,Balwant

[cookies4marilyn]

Can so relate to all of you - hang in there because there IS hope, and most people do find their way, it is very hard - I raised both of my kids 'through the bathroom door' so to speak, but you take the good days and try to get through the bad ones. IBS is an awful way to live, but there are things you can do to help, if even a bit. You are not alone... ((HUGS))