Posted 09 December 2008 - 06:33 AM
Aw... Well, I've been in your situation and I've found the best way to deal with it really is to just say it.Now don't stop reading that post right there, let me explain...What I tend to say to people I meet, if I'm having trouble or if I turn down a drink they offer me or something is that "I have a stomach condition where the muscles can cramp up like crazy and leave me in a lot of pain, it's not that often but it's been bugging me a little lately". That's all they need to know really. From that point on they usually understand that I may need to go off to the toilet, stop eating, or even not eat at all and they usually understand it.It's particularly nice with a potential future relationship because the response gives you a good idea what to think of the person. If the person you're seeing is the kind of person who doesn't respond well to or understand such a health problem, then that's a good indicator that they may not be the right person for you.Take a couple of Immodium before you go out, too, that should ensure you don't have to rush off with uncontrollable D.Lucky for me, I'm a straight male, and girls tend to be quite understanding of IBS, but if he's a decent guy, I'm sure he'll appreciate that you have your "stomach condition", which, as you get to know him, you can let him know what it actually is, etc...I love my girlfriend more than the world (it's been a year and 3 months now!) and she's always been amazingly understanding about it, if ever I'm in pain she takes care of me, and if ever I have to spend half an hour in the bathroom, she's always checking on me to see if I'm okay, and when I come back out she's usually prepared a nice drink for me or something or put on a film I like to make me feel better.So, yeah... Don't worry. In a way your IBS could help you understand the kind of person the guy is.