Dealing with the school system
Posted 30 January 2013 - 08:33 PM
I have a 13 year old daughter who has the alternating form of IBS she missses a lot of day of school at times and the school system is not very sympathetic all they seem to care about is the number of days she has missed. Has anyone else had similar issues and if so how did you resolve them? My daughter is very bright and regardless of how many days she misses she still gets good grades.
Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:32 PM
Posted 15 August 2013 - 08:05 PM
We also encountered this problem & always had the school social worker breathing down our necks. My child missed a lot of school, yet still managed to pull very good grades. I always had both my pediatrician & my daughter's gastroenterologist write notes for school, explaining her condition & asking that she be allowed to use the restroom as needed & for extended periods of time. I also made sure to come to any attendance related meetings with an armful of medical records & a note from all doctors, to prove that the absences were due to a medical condition & not truancy. This covered us legally.
My daughter's condition has worsened over the past year, and we are lucky enough to live in a state that offers a free public school option to be done at home, through the K12 school. We have pulled her out of the brick & mortar school & will be doing this hybrid homeschool this year. It allows my child to be able to attain 100% attendance, while being able to take classes via her laptop. If need be, she can take them while lying in bed, or watch them later in the day, as they record all classes. It's a great option to look into for chronically ill children.
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Posted 11 February 2015 - 12:36 PM
school is terrible, think everyone is the same, I feel bad I really do.
Posted 14 February 2015 - 02:55 AM
Not a parent, but I'm 16 and have been dealing with this for a few years now. Even before my diagnosis, I still struggled with many stomach issues, likely IBS-D related. Some teachers were sympathetic, others not so much. I had one teacher refuse me the right to use the bathroom once, as it was in the middle of a lesson. I'm not a troublesome kid and have always done well in school. Never caused problems with teachers. Man oh man, did my mother tear her a new strip after I went home and told her that story.
My mom was adamant about contacting the appropriate administrators and teachers about my a) loss of classtime and school-based needs. Thankfully I can freely run to the washroom when needed, with a little nod to the teacher to let them know I'm on the run. It wasn't easy though; it's been a long process of meetings at the school with my counselor (out of school) and even my family doctor. All I wanted was to be able to use the washroom when I needed to, or let myself outside if I needed some fresh air.
Now, Grade 11, I can finally do this, but it would have been nice when I was stressed to the max in Grade 8 to have these options. I'm shy and non-confrontational, so if the teacher asked me to wait until a more appropriate time to use the bathroom, I would, forcefully, wait. Thankfully have never had an "accident" but it resulted in a lot of stress.
I hope everything works out for you. The faculty will realize that she is bright, and will hopefully sympathize with the problem.