Hiya,I am going out with a policeman, or at least thought i was until last night. It has been about 2 months now. Last night we had a heart to heart about the "relationship". He told me, that he really likes me and wants to spend time with me, but doesn't want to say he is going out with me because he knows that because f his job he can't be there as much as he would like. He also said that when he gets free time (not v often) he wants to do what HE wants to do and that he won't always want to come see me. But might want to go on the lash with the boys, or spend time on his own.I totally appreciate a guys need for time to hislef. He says the main reason for not "commiting" to a relationship is because of his job. He said he just doesn't want to be going out with someone at the moment. But that we are seeing each other. To me that means he wants to see other people, but inisits that this is not the case. I asked him a again and he said he doesn't want to see other people only me. SO i am very confused.This morning i went round to his flat when he was getting ready for work and told him that he must remember that this can't just be about what he wants, but what i want as well. Bascially he wants a relationship without having to be answerable to anyone of he has to break a date or something. If i am not actually his "girlfriend" then he won't have to do that. He hates confrontation. I suggested to him that he bascially wants to have his cake and eat it, and it can't be like that. I also told him that we should try and find a happy medium, a comprimise. I need something out of this too. I believe this is a typcvial guy reaction. He wants a girlfriend, but without the hassle of getting earache when he had to break a date or he is tired or wants to get pissed with his mates.He says he doesn't want to spend ALL his free time with me- and i don't expect that at all. I know that he has a life outside of me! But what he doesn't realise is that the different parts of his life could nclude me also- we don't have to be seperate all the time do we?Arghh- nightmare. I don't want to lose him. I told him this last night. He says he wants to be with me and spend time with me. My best mates boyfriend says he is doing exacty what he did at first, just testing the water in a way. I dunno. I feel weird.Spliffy.