Okay, am quite new to the website...thanks to all who were so kind to welcome me. Am having an awful but unfortunately typical IBS weekend. I know that this may sound drastic but I would really appreciate your advice on the following...My IBS has gotten so bad over the past couple of months that it's been preventing me from various social occassions--nothing new other that these days the mere thought of going out, making plans with friends, etc makes me become very anxious. The first thing that comes to my mind is how I don't have time for hanging out (since I need to be taking care of my IBS--meaning going to the gym and preparing my food), and two: how I will feel awful while hanging out with friend (for full description I suggest you read Volatile's account of IBS/gym/social life from yesterday). Volatile-I am completely with you there. Reading your account was like reading my mind. Anyhow, I have been thinking hard about something...have been thinking of emailing my few closest friends and letting them know how I will not have time to see them in the next few weeks or so...that I need time to take care of my miserable disorder. I would suggest to see them on weekends or so. Now, please tell me...does this sound crazy to you? Drastic? You see, my friends know me as an energetic person, a get-goer who always takes too much on herself, and, in addition to many other things, a crazy dancer. these things all used to be true but honestly, I have been feeling like 1/4 of my old self. this, unfortunately, I am having trouble conveying to others. What do you think? Please help!My priorities in life these days are work--cause I have to make my living, and 2-gym, cause I have to take care of my body (for IBS and aesthetic reasons).thanks, thanks!
Am about to do something stupid (Maybe)--need an advice!
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I may have missed something here, but why don't you just tell your friends that you have a digestive disorder and that at times you may not be able to go out?I have had this for 14 years. If i had told my friends i needed a few weeks to get over it, i would still be telling the same thing every few weeks.Why don't you prepare your food on one day of the week, say sunday, cook and everything then, freeze what you can. That should be the food dealt with and you should already have a routine for going to the gym so that shouldn't make any difference to you socialising.I find preparing food as suggested saves a lot of time, and you know what you are having so not tempted to make something you shouldn't.I don't think distancing yourself from your friends is going to make it any easier on you, or make you anything but miserable and maybe feeling alone.
thank you all for your advice. the problem here lies not so much in not having time but in the fact that often times I find myself not being able to fulfill expectations, however simple they may be (such as meeting a friend for dinner and similar), and then, in return, i feel super guilty...I feel that i have failed my friends. I will talk to me, as I already have, but I just feel that they cannot, or don't want to,take me seriously. i feel that they'd really love to help but can't. okay, that much. thanks again.
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