Greetings Jojo,I have spent the past decade refining my recipes so that my husband can eat dinner with the family. I'm too lazy to prepare a seperate meal for him and I don't enjoy eating a diet consisting of only chicken and rice.
Everyone is different and the triggers for one person may not be the triggers for another. I will share what has worked to almost completely elimate his IBS-A symptoms (and it has been a long, hard road to this point!)* He stopped drinking sodas... the bubbly sodas and mineral waters seem to give him gas and exacerbate the IBS-D.* We don't use any processed foods (mostly meats) that have nitrates or nitrites as a preservative... keeping in mind that this will pretty much eliminate all lunch meat, hot dogs, bacon, etc.
Fortunately, Food companies have started to respond to customer demand and you can buy Oscar Meyer hot dogs that are preservative free. Yay! * He cannot have pork in any way shape or form... even organic. Dunno why, it just appears to be that way.* Eliminated all "cow" dairy products... he doesn't seem to have an issue with goat milk or goat cheese. That discovery opened up a whole new avenue of food enjoyment for him. Tofutti makes the MOST wonderful "ice cream"... I eat it rather than regular ice cream. Yummmmm. They also make a tofu based sour cream and cream cheese that are pretty decent... especially if you can't have dairy. (Their vegan cheesecake is the bomb!)* He limits the amount of fried foods he eats, as well as raw onions and tomatoes... an occasional serving of these is tolerable, but not often.* He also started breaking up his meals into several "mini-meals" throughout the day.* Alcohol is iffy... sometimes he is fine with a couple of beers; other times he will be doubled over in pain for half the day. He got tired of the roulette wheel so he abstains most of the time now.Keeping a food journal and closely monitoring your episodes for the triggers goes a long way to reducing their frequency. Hopefully, some of these will be of benefit to you. It took us more than 10yrs to get to this point, but we have finally gotten a handle on his "treatment plan". Eliminating STRESS is a huge, huge ... cannot stress enough how HUGE it is... factor. I can tell when he is having a lot of problems at work because he will start to get crampy... since I cannot go kill everyone that is causing problems at his place of employment... I make sure that the dinners I cook during that time are fairly bland and I don't use any of the "occasional" foods as ingredients. This seems to help. A lot of folks have had great success by using yoga for relaxation... we haven't tried it but you may want to give it a go.