HiMe too. Like this memorial weekend, I was and still am sick (although not from ibs this time, oh boy there is no break lol), and then we had to cancel all our plans and then he had to take me to the hospital and cook for me and stay in all three days. I felt bad for him, although he said he didn't mind. So I can totally relate to what you're saying. *HUGS*From what you wrote it feels like you've done your part as best as you can -- you know, you still go/dine out even if you don't feel like to most of the time. You still maintain intimacy with him even though you're in pain a lot of the time. So, I'm sure he knows, and I'm sure he appreciates your effort (even if he doesn't always say so).About the unable to go out to party when he wants to -- I have an idea and have done so before with success, maybe it's something that you could modify and use -- unless like this time I had a health crisis and do need my husband to be with me and take care of me, I always encourage him to go have fun on his own when I can't. I always tell him I'm happy to see him have fun (even if in my heart I wish I could go and I'm envious of him and all the rest of the people). And I'd love to be a very small part of the fun, too, but in my own way. So everytime he goes without me, I'd ring his cell or arrange beforehand to have him ring mine (and turn on his cell speaker) -- so I'd have a chance to say "Hi" to everyone over there. This isn't like being there in person, but, it's a lot of fun and everyone feels special and different and happy. [this is of course on condition that you know at least some of the people there partying. If you know no one or if it's a formal party like the company new year cele., esp. when there's his bosses there, then don't call.]If he's just out in a park on a trail hiking, then, it may also be fun to call or have him call you (but unless he loves it and wants to, don't occupy the entirety of his hike, leave at least 2/3 of it for him to be by himself). You two could talk about what he sees during his walk -- the sun, the trees, the lake, the passersby (and their dogs), etc., and afterwards both of you may have a different appreciation of this way of communicating and of each other. My husband and I did this every day when he was in NYC while I was in another state finishing off my classes. He would talk about the streets he passes, the subway, the people and their dogs walking by, what happened in his lab, etc.. -- I mean, it's not like things are so different everyday or the streets and shops are different every time he called, but it was nice just to be able to talk. So, like, this way, he can still have his fun and freedom, and you can still have the safety of your home when you can't go out (you do go out whenever you can, and only do this when you *really* can't go out). And more importantly, you can have a share of the fun he's having and he can share his with you -- they say that happiness grows when we share. So, might be worth a try?
And, you could also do without the call for a change sometimes and before he goes, ask him to bring back home a few fall leaves or spring flowers that he picks up from the ground during his hike, or get you a lil souvenior from where he's heading, say, apple cider from a farm that he visits, etc. -- sharing fun and feeling being together can also happen asynchronously

All the best and all of us are here for you, too! Stay in touch!xoxo