What should I do, besides rip the guy apart, which I am going to do.I will not take any more of this nonchalent treatment, I want a cure NOW, I AM THROUGH TRYING IMPOSING THINGS WHICH DO NOTHING.It is time for this to pay off, unlike many IBS people, I will not sit back and wait years for this to get better and I will not further alienate myself from society by being on an ultra strict diet and pill process which makes having a college social life impossible.
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You have to understand that doctors are pretty desesperate too.Imagine how dull it is to see people all the time and to have no solution for them.Anyway Volatile,IBS is like a trip deep inside your body.Sometimes you have to suffer to pass to the next level.If you suffer since few months,it's not that bad if you compare to others.Help will arrive and being determinated should help you.The first years are full of surprises of course.
I have no sympathy for somone who does not have IBS and makes a fortunate off of my suffering.In my experience, if you let people know you will not take no for answer, if you let me them know they can not take you lightly, they must take you seriously, you better your chances of getting what you need.Besides giving the doctor a mouthfull, what should I say to him that will help me out?
Volatile,Be sure to let us know how the visit with the doctor went for you. I agree that doctors often are nonchalant about patient problems because it is just an assembly line for them, thanks to our wonderful health care system that pretty much mandates that they move us along like cattle (my doctor admitted that he can't really spend more than 10 minutes per patient to get through the patient load each day). However, you refuse to listen to people here who have told you over and over and over that doctors simply do not have a cure for everything. If this was the Star Ship Enterprise perhaps some futuristic gadget could diagnose and cure your bloating in 5 minutes. Or if this was Hogwarts, the school matron could give you a magic brew to cure bloating and regrow any broken bones over night. Perhaps you could just go to Never Never Land with Peter Pan and have Tinkerbelle heal you. But in this real world, it just isn't that easy.You've been on the forum for a long time, and I enjoy reading your posts, because they are so human and sad, while in another sense amusing. Why amusing? Because I see a young man (you said you are 21?) who still hasn't grown up enough to experience that some bad things just cannot be blugeoned away by brute force or loud yelling. People here offer you a lot of suggestions and if you have tried them (and how could anyone here know that?) you verbally give them the finger in response! You are pretty rude to people here. It is sort of like a teenager being mad at his parents because they can't make his life perfect. There are 2 options here:1. You will eventually find a way to decrease your bloating. I suspect it would be via patient trial and error over time, either working calmly with a doctor or on your own.2. You may have to accept the bloating, and live with it, just as millions of people your age live with diabetes, cancer, herpes, HIV, yeast infections (my old college girl friend had a yeast infection just about every 2-3 weeks!), migraine headaches, etc. Let us know if yelling at your doctor gets you the cure you visualize he secretly has somewhere. I suspect if I tried that with my doctor, he would ask me to leave and would then tell my insurance carrier that he was no longer accepting me as a patient. You just might find that bellowing at people (especially professionals) is not the way to get through life very well. THey may just hand you a bottle of pills that under lab inspection would turn out to be arsenic!
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·sorry but I disagree - I've found SOME doctors bloody terrible - but some are magic. Here in the UK, alot of their precious time is taken up with unnecessary paperwork, rude patients and horrendously unsocial hours. My cousin is a GP in inner-city Brum and has a difficult job working very long hours - I couldn't do it - could you????? Imagine having to break news to somebody that they have MS, terminal cancer, Motor Neurone Disease.Sorry, ranting I know but there are so many negative stories, yes, some from me too but IBS must be a nightmare to treat and we have to learn to sometimes put up with it - it ain't going to kill us is it?There, said my piece, will probably be shot down in flames but hey, you've got to go out on a limb sometimes!!Sue
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If your Doc is not taking the time to listen then find a new one. If you go in tehre ranting and raving you will be asked to leave. IBS is not something that Doctors know enough about. I know I am new to this baord but i have had IBS since 1998 probably earlier but then it was called "nervous stomach". You need to calm down and try things that were offered to you with the advice of the people on this board. However if your Doc just pushes you aside at the visits then find a new one . I forget the poster's name that said this but he was right ...alot of times we are just like cattle being pushed along an assembly line. It is unfortunate, but it does happen.
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·Well said Mom!!
I went to the doctor's office. We spent a half hour talking.I did not go in with an attitude, I did express my frustration, but in a civilized way.I figuered I let out my anger here, and that it would be wrong and not helpful to do so there, I guess I took it from here that I could be heard and taken not lightly without raising my voice.The doctor looked at my diet. The doctor feels my bloating is not food related. I told him bloating is constant, but that I do not have constipation, diarrhea, or excessive gas. I told him I used to have constipation and diarrhea, but once I stopped having dairy, these went away. However, without diary, I continue to have bloating. This lead the doctor to believe I have bloating and dairy intolerance. The doctor told me he thought air intake an gas might be the problem originally, but seeing as how I do not complain about gas, he thinks that stress has a good chance at being the culprit. I went on to tell him that while I do not have constipation, I do take 10 Citrucell a day, and when I am not at my home toilet, I have a hard time going to the bathroom. I was not sure if again, being in a different toilet might cause stress, again supporting that theory. I wanted to know if this is consistent with your feelings. The doctor told me before I go for my next appointment, he wants me to either go to psychotherapy, or Mind Body Clinic for relaxation classes. What do you make of this session?
Volatile,I would suggest you try what your doctor has prescribed, and not rely on the mere opinions of people here in this forum that you routinely blow off or yell at (posting in all caps). For what it's worth, when I am stressed, I get a lot more flatulence than otherwise, regardless of diet. So bloating may be related to a perpetual TYPE A personality situation or free floating anxiety or anger. I know for a fact that most people with any form of IBS are effected very much by life situations and stress. Right now I am in final stages of training to be a Chaplain. While I want to do this and use my life to help others, today it really hit me that I was going to be really putting myself out there for people, and that this is really extending my boundaries in big ways (e.g., going to hospitals, praying with people who just lost a loved one, etc). I felt great anxiety about it (can I really do this?), and lo and behold, for the first time in over 90 days, my stool was somewhat mushy (the mind/body connection is INSTANTANEOUS). So I would think bloating may certainly get worse if you are always angry or upset about something. I've never heard of the syndrome where you cannot "go" in a strange toilet? You can only go at home? To me that will be a much larger cramp on your future life than mere bloating! I used to be shy about using a urinal, but over time I've gotten over that in a public restroom. Try everything the doctor (or trustworthy others) suggest at least once. If all else fails, you might even try spirituality, establish a relationship with your favorite metaphor for God, e.g., Jesus, Buddha, Paris Hilton?
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Sorry to disagree but I have trouble when I have to use a loo other than my own. I'm a D usually but I can guarantee that if we go away (even to my mum's house) that I will clog up for a couple of days. There's just something not right about a loo not being your own
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·Screamer - I'm always bunged as bejaysus if I'm on hollies - I thought maybe (old wifey's tale) it was the "Change in Drinking Water" - I dunno but its something all my family suffer from - remember my dad always complaining when we went away on our family hollies that he coulnd't "go" - yumm - just what I wanted to know when I was about 10 but of course didn't know anything about the joys and delights of IBS then did I.Better dash and do the school run.Sue
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·Hey V,Relaxation sessions, it is worth a try as you already cut out the diary. I remind myself when I am bloated that it is non-life threatening. I have not found the solution, but I am not looking for it. For me that equals less stress.What did your Doctor say about the 10 Citrucel?Char
If bloating is really just trapped gas in the stomach or small intestine, I wonder if there could be a surgical technique to "drill" a hole into the stomach that could be popped off, so the gas could escape, like air from an over-blown up balloon? You take off the cap, descreetly press on the bloated tummy, and (like a tire slowly leaking air) the accumulated inner gases would escape, thereby leaving the abdomen flat again. You then replace the cap, pull down your muscle shirt, and live life normally. Maybe there would be a surgical way that doctors could put in a hose with the cap on the male nipple, so it wouldn't be so obvious. I got this idea after watching NBS news tonight where they discussed obesity surgery.
Snookems, in the United States Empire, having time off is referred to as "going on vacation" rather than having a holiday (although I think "on holiday" sounds much more festive that "on vacation"). But many Americans are normally rather vacant to start with, so vacating their jobs for vacation is a natural seque. I never knew that some folks were so attached to their toilet (Americans tend to call them bathrooms rather than loos. We used to have a cartoon character named Lu Lu, but she seemed to always have on clean underpants and never mentioned IBS). My parents never discussed bowel habits, except that my dad spent literally hours in the bathroom (the ONLY bathroom in our house!) making loud flatulence noises and rustling the newspaper. Of course, considering what a nag my mother was, the bathroom was his only place of peace. I am surprised he didn't set up a little altar in there with a crucifix, a Bible and a bag of unleavened communion chips. He was a rather strange old blok, and after flushing there would still be little pieces of turd floating around in the bowl. My brother and I would dive bomb them with toilet paper balls. Only small children would find this fun, but our only toys were rocks and dead lizards. Now I live in a house with 4 bathrooms and my dad is so impressed. He is 93 and fell asleep on the toilet one night, so we just left him there until morning, snuggly and warm in a big pile of toilet paper balls.The next morning he woke up refreshed and demanded breakfast "in bed" but we refused since we don't allow our guests to eat on the toilet, since we do our best to follow Martha Stewart in areas of domestic good taste.
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