brokenhit - First let me express my sympathy at your condition and poor luck with Doctors. IBS can be very depressing, debilitating and frustrating. I assume that you have had all the medical tests to rule out other conditions because if not then you need to continue to seek out a good medical doctor. If however you have had all the test then you certainly have turned to the right place. This BB has been a god send for a lot of us. I have suffered from IBS for the last 30 years starting in my 20's so I can totally relate to your situation. In spite of this condition, I have been married for 30 years, have a great family, including two grandchildren, I have a good career, acive social life and travel several times a year, I belong to a gym and work out regularly,have curled competativly over the years and particpated in some other sports. I'm not telling you this to brag, but rather to let you know your life is not over and there is no need to feel like you have lost everything. What you need to do is learn how to live with IBS (because as of yet there is no magic cure as it is a syndrome, not a disease) People on this board will help you find the right combination of medications, herbs, relaxation, exercise and coping methods to help you improve your quality of life. It is up to you to experiment and find what works for you. My suggestion to start with is Communnication, tell your family and friends what is going on and that you need their support and understanding when you are in pain and don't feel well or need a little longer to get ready. Don't hesitate to tell your boss and coworkers about your condition as well. It is real and not to be ashamed about. Second thing that helps me is relaxation techniques and there are lots of articles written on this. Thirdly is diet, find what works and avoid what doesnt.Good luck and hopefully you will not take my comments as a lecture, they are well intended as I know well where you are right now in your life and it can be Hell. keep tuned to this site and it will help.