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In the beginning my husband was in lala land. Now by seeing me and what I go through, my husband over time is pretty much 90% very supportive. The other 10% I realize I have to look out for myself, where he would be absent minded. I try to not fly off the handle, when he wants to go for a 2 mile walk, or things I wish I could do but can't, but make a joke out of it. Joking about it does help. However, if hubby is stupid, try exlax on him, he may get the picture. Oh, be out and about when he's eaten it. No joke. it will shut him up fast.

 

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Mamamia,Be honnest with hubby. Tell, him, hon, what should I do? I'm worried about the drive and facilities at the picnic. Put it on him to help you figure it out. It will make him a part of the choice. Sometimes, being a team, will help you to do good stratigies and ideas. i.e. put a bucket in the car/w tp. My mother suggested this, I thought it was gross,(still do) however...it gave me more freedom to travel. Also, both, look for facilities and park your self near there, and enjoy the picnic. don't let IBS cripple you, what you can improvise on go for it and the stuff you can't work around except it. Believe me I have severe IBS 12X'S a day. 10 second warnings. You both may get very creative on your stratigies.

 

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Mamamia,Don't let him shrug it off with "don't think about it". If he say's anything like that, you need to re take control of the conversation, NICELY. Say, hon, come on now, I really need you to be serious and help me figure this out. I need your help, I know you got some good ideas. (ego up)Remind him NICELY, that you don't have the luxury to not think about it. Say I wish I could, but I'm really worried here, so honey, help me think of something that can work so we both can have a good time.I know spouses can be trying, but you need to get through to them this IBS is no joke. My husband kept on puting the toliet seat cover down, which didn't help my 10 second dash. so I put a post it note on the cover," please leave the cover up" he laughed at the note stopped doing it. Trying I know but keep after them until they get it. Its wrong for these spouses not to understand and HELP YOU/US. This IBS is crippling.