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Dear friends:My hubby is usually pretty supportive. But sometimes he gets so angry. A couple of weeks ago I left work, after having an accident (no one knew, thank God!) but of course I felt horrible, humiliated, etc. You know the drill.Anyway, I came home from work 3 hours early and I'm laying on the couch, wishing for death, and my husband cops this huge attitude.We were having sandwiches that night for dinner, anyway. He says "Can't you even set the table???"(Paper plates.)And then he proceeded to be really icky the rest of the night, until I screamed bloody, blue murder that "I can't cope with this disease and your f---ing attitude!"This is not the first time this has happened.It's not that I don't try. I hardly EVER miss work or even family functions. I go sick or well, no one cares how I feel. Our home is always immaculate, I pay half the bills, I just feel like the lowest life form when he does that.I don't buy that, "he wants to fix it and can't" business. When I throw my back out, a problem HE ALSO has, he's all "sweetness and light."Anybody else have this problem? Male or female?love and light to all, michele-

 

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Dear Little:I hate the f---ing Olive Garden!!Thanx for the supportive reply.love, m-

 

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Dear friends:So many of your stories are IDENTICAL ones that I have experienced, even down to the conversation.For example, I have been laying down on the bed, miserable and have been asked, "Are you getting up to make dinner."I DO realize that people who don't have IBS find it impossible to relate. I'm not asking them to relate, I am asking them to adjust. Right now my hubby is having a terrible time at work, not his fault. I told him to go in and quit, we'll figure something out. I even told him I'd even increase my part time hours (just what I need!) but he's my husband and you're supposed to do and care for one another.To be made to feel like you are faking it, is the absolute worse!!! We have a picnic coming up way the heck out in PA, and I'm already rumbling. My dad has told me to tell my hubby that he is sick (my dad), he's almost 80, so that I'd have to care for him and not go to this picnic. I'm thinking about it.much love and light to you all, I need you guys so much, m-

 

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Dear rocks:I do like your suggestion about including him in on the decision. I just hope he doesn't shrug and say "Don't think about it and you'll be okay."I might be charged with homicide!!(But I might try asking him anyway, thanx)love, m-

 

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Dear friends:You know there could be something to that "gay men" suggestion!!!!love, michele-

 

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Dear Danaps:My dad lives in Robbinsville! Actually ALL of my family and friends are VERY supportive, it's just hubby who gets on my nerves when I think of it.Even my granddaughter will say something like, "Hey Meema, don't have any of that ice cream cake we're having or you know what will happen and she's only five!!!"Hubby is good in other ways, so I guess I'll have to keep him. If I had had this with my first hubby, he'd have made me feel like a complete idiot, I'm sure and made fun of me mercilessly.love, m-