I've asked these questions many times. Or why do I seem to be the only person who always has to scope out the bathrooms. Seems like most people decide to go somewhere & just hop in a car and go. With IBS you first have to think about whether you are going to have to go to the bathroom, you don't know so you decide maybe you'd better not go. It definitely limits your lifestyle. I do know what you mean by standing with a group talking & shifting around. Story of our life, I guess.