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I am 23 years old and have been living with strictly type D IBS for about 8 years. As you all know it has been extremely debilitating and sometimes I don't think I can take it anymore, but I manage to get through it one day at a time. this has drastically affected my life. You all know about constantly scoping out the bathrooms, not going places where there is no bathroom access and living in constant fear. I have also changed my diet, completely cut out all caffine and sugar. However, my number one trigger is alcohol and I cannot give that up. yes, yes I know it's bad and I should quit anyway, but the fact is that I do drink alot. I like beer, I even write a column about it so I have to drink it, and yes, I even like getting drunk on the weekends. this is actually pretty normal for people my age, that's what we do, we hang out in bars and drink a lot of beer. I have quit everything else that might be a trigger, cold turkey, and I would do almost anything to make this problem go away, but there is no replacement for alcohol, and I'm not willing to change my lifestyle that drastically. At leat not yet.Ok, now to get to the problem at hand...I just started seeing someone new recently who I really like. I'll be seeing him this weekend at a party where we will be drinking and it is likeley that I may end up staying over at his house. I am totally paranoid about the next morning because after a night of drinking an attack of D is almost inevitable. Does anyone know of any quick fixes or short term solutions that may help me through the weekend? I want to spend time with this person but I am terrified of getting into an embarrasing situation, and I refuse to let this control my life. Please help.
 

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Hey WornoutI'm afraid you are going to have to make a choice for the party. Drink lots and suffer the next morning with D. Or cut back and fake drinking to spend the night with the new guy. Unfortunately, triggers are just that. You can't really turn them off and on. Chances are you will get D. if you decide to drink lots. Not to mention the anxiety and stress worrying about the next morning. Sorry I can't help you much.
 
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Well my first suggestion would be to stop drinking, but if you are worried about this weekend, take some immodium ad before the party. It should help with the D the next morning. Drinking is one of my triggers also. Also, try and drink in moderation and not go all out. You may feel better the next day.
 

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A quick fix for not having any D this weekend is to NOT drink. Like Lisa said, you won't let IBS rule your life but you are letting alcohol. There is nothing wrong with appreciating beer, or any other alcohol for that matter. The key is moderation...I REALLY like wine, but I get bad D when I drink it. So, I think I drink it once every two months or so; ONE GLASS.I'm not that much older than you, and I remember the importance of alcohol in social activities. (I lived in residence at university for 2 years....THAT was a lot of alcohol, and a lot of focus on it). I have to also say this....if you really like this guy he is NOT going to be impressed with you getting drunk all the time. No guy wants to have his girl known as the lush; or have to worry if she will pass out or do anything stupid while drinking. Or if anything will happen to her. If you are implying that you will be sleeping with him this weekend, wouldn't you rather be sober for that? Statistics show that people our age are less apt to use birth control (esp condoms) properly when inebriated.I know this sounds like a lecture...maybe it is in a way. You sound like an intelligent person; why let alcohol rule your life, or let it interfere with the potential for happiness with this guy? (oh...and the best guy to have is the one you can tell you have IBS and he wants to learn about it and will stand by you, no matter how bad it gets)
 
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Emergency? Huh?? No, I am NOT a puritanical tee-totaller, but I do not see what the problem is here. (Drink, feel bad.... seems easy to me.)[This message has been edited by brianfromparkview (edited 11-02-2000).]
 

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i'm 23 and not much of a drinker myself.. i'll skip my 'lecture' lol and just say, most people will understand if you say that the alcohol makes you sick! if they dont..screw em
i mean, why should you have to drink to have fun with other people only to get sick the next day?!
 

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I drank quite a bit in college, and all I can say is that it can give normal people D the day after. The Immodium suggestion is good, but be prepared for the fact that it could leave you C for a few days. I try to use it only in emergencies for that reason.Fake drinking is a great idea. Once I turned 21 and could go to bars, I became the designated driver. None of my friends could be trusted... they'd say they'd stay sober then they'd end up drinking. So I'd stay sober. I drank fountain soda in the same glasses mixed drinks come in, and I'd drink nonalcoholic beer in a glass. I had just as much fun as everyone else, and saved a ton of money.I like beer too, and I can have one or two without a problem. Try to limit yourself, even if it is just this once.
 

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Hi! I don't think immodium will help you the night before. If your ibs is like mine, it will be at its worst after drinking regardless of what precautions you take. Yeah I used to like drinking too. I did it often when I was a little younger (age 16-19). Then it became less frequent. I would rarely drink, but when I did, I would get drunk. I learned my lesson two and a half years ago(age 25). I got drunk the night before my sister's wedding (in which I was singing). The next morning my ibs was awful. It was so bad I almost missed the wedding and couldn't really get my daughter fixed up like she was supposed to be (she was the flower girl). I finally made it but was sick all day and wasn't really the best I could be. In short, I could have really ruined my sister's wedding. I made a choice then and there. I have not had a drink since. I have not wanted a drink since. You have to make a decision too. Which would be more embarrassing? Not drinking with your friends or having stomach cramps and diarrhea all morning? Keep in mind that this is obviously someone you'd like to impress. If it were me, I would probably have a few drinks early in the night and space them out. Do not get drunk and chances are your ibs may be controllable with the immodium. If you get drunk all bets are off. You do not have to be drunk to be likeable and guys generally do not find diarrhea and smelly bathrooms to be sexy. If you are old enough to drink you are old enough to control yourself and use moderation. There is nothing wrong with social drinking. It can still be fun without getting smashed. Heck who knows...he might like you better that way. It's all about self control and prioritizing. What is more important to you?I Hope I have not come across as hateful. I am just speaking from experience. i wish you luck. s n t
 

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Hi wornout:Everyone has already said anything that I would say, which is: cut down and drink less and take Immodium. Drink very, very slowly, and not on an empty stomach. Otherwise you'll have the big D for sure.JeanG
 
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I am not going to criticize worn out for drinking, she will have to learn lessons for herself. I am not a drinker. i am 22 years old and did the bulk of my drinking before 21. However I am going away this weekend with my friends and boyfriend who understand my problems therefor I find it acceptable for me to cut loose and drink this weekend. The immodium is my option also, However, and this is purely speculation, perhaps a bowel cleansing would help. I just did this for a colonoscopy and have been doing a lot better the past few days. I am actually consedering doing this every month or two. Hope this helps.
 

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I would be willing to bet that if your most embarrasing moment included the big d andbeing intoxicated at the same time (not a pretty picture) you probably would swear off drinking forever! I wonder if you drink to take your mind off of your ibs. All of the other post really have some good advice from people who have been there and done that. You should try to take it to heart. Good Luck!
 
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Well I hate to say it but am struggling a biut with this myself. I am a big drinker, or at least was until about a week ago. Its a huge culture in my family, we get together eat and drink alot (yes, great for the ibs) well thats what we have done, for years. And then my freinds, exactly the same, some drink excessively, other like wine with dinner. I love wine, beer, it complements food, and yes, I admit it, I use it when I am feeling bad. I recognized this and tried to determine whether I wanted a drink or I was emotional. Well, I hate to say it, but what has stopped me, is that after having D for everyday for well over a month, with fatgue and depression, I was willing to stop everything in order to not to have D. Now I fight the urge and only have half a glass or a glass occassionally. But mostly none, so at some point you'll have enough too, and take charge, however, until then... take immodium, pace your drinking, drink water or something else between each drink, it will slow you down and moderate you. You dont want this guy to think your a big boozer anyway, big turn off, and you'll look foolish. Trust me, Ive seen my friends do it. Also, take stuff with you, just in case, matches, a little perfume, maybe some ozuim spray for odors, toilet paper, or a little thing of kleenex (we all now college age boy arent exactly good with toilet paper (lol)
-- if an attack happens, claim your putting on your make-up, getting ready in the morning etc, need privacy, this will buy you some time. Your other option, dont stay over until you can openly and honestly tell this person that you have IBS and he will understand. Perhaps this is also a better route.Best of luck. And although it will make you mad, consider that you are not like other people your age-you cannot drink like they all do. think about it. thats all I'd ask, put your health first, you can still have fun, and you;; probably feel better too.CB[This message has been edited by CBwithD (edited 11-02-2000).]
 

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If you drink, you pay the penalty. Your choice - and I'd hardly call something you are causing to happen an emergency. You will probably find that as you get older the alcohol will make you sicker and sicker. When I was young, I wouldn't drink more than my friends but the next day I would be prone and sick as anything while my friends would be back to normal - now I know why.[This message has been edited by me3 (edited 11-02-2000).]
 

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I think, and its just my opinion, but just the fact that you were able to recognize that you have a problem with alcohol..And to put it into words on this board, is perhaps your way of saying to yourself that this drinking is bigger than you are...Its a great step to realize that somepeople can get addicted to alcohol, and that person could be you..First step is admitting to yourself and others that you have a drinking problem//. And maybe you just did that../I know Ive been there 19 yrs. ago.. Be brave, and give yourself a chance to see how it goes sober.. its really a neat world out there,and to see it threw clear eyes and mind is a blessing...
 

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I clicked on your post because of the word "emergency". I'm still waiting to hear what the emergency is. I'm 23, like going out and having a good time, and manage to do it with minimal drinking. Don't drink, don't feel bad.
 
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Hello Everyone!Great advice and I as well have yet to determine what the "emergency" is. To be honest, I think the whole scenerio is quite adolescent. I do not drink because I put my health first. My body cannot tolerate the alcohol so I abstain. That is called being a mature, responsible adult. I listen to my body and what it tells me. Instead of listening to your mind talk about this guy and "next mornning" dilemmas, perhaps you should be listening to the very important message your body is giving you. If you do not respect your body - what makes you think it should respect you? If you want your body to behave in a certain manner then perhaps you should be a little more accomodating.We all make decisions and choices and living with the consequences is no emergency. It is a fact of life. So if you choose to go out with this guy and drink knowing the consequences and suffer the next moring - I am not sympathetic. You do have a choice.IBS does not have to control your life but by indulging in behaviours that aggravate it, of course it is going to dominate. I can tell you that by controlling my IBS symptoms, I have better control. Watching what you eat, limiting liquior etc. does not always imply that things are controlling you but perhaps you controlling them.This is a SELF HELP board. We are here to support you in your quest to help yourself through education, information and support. As for myself, I refuse to offer you support in your quest to SELF SABOTAGE. Brittany
 
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