I mean... why not, right? I look like a ghost, I'm skinny as hell, and I'm always sick thus I look like hell.What's to love, really?Why wouldn't she want to upgrade?
Angst -- like Sukie and others said, there's much more to a person than appearance (looking ill, etc.) -- you said your funny and romantic, which is something really valuable in a woman's eyes! That's a lot for your g/f to love! with an average person, it is NOT being sick regularly that will drive her away; it is some of the following that frustrate her (i'm truly not saying you do those, i'm sure you don't! just saying this so you'll have peace of mind): stuff like, taking her care for granted, forgetting to thank/appreciate her for the small things she does, shutting her out of your problem instead of letting her in, getting moody without letting her know that your feeling sick at the moment, or too involved in one's own problem and forget to care about hers or how she feels, etc.. Like i said, i'm sure you don't do any of the above! so, you know, it's more for peace of mind!if it's only your ibs, there's really no reason for a reasonable g/f to want to "upgrade," if you don't put yourself down in that position, nobody can do that to you -- please believe that you're already the "upgrade!" and there's nobody "up" above you!! and if you believe this, your g/f and other people around you will all believe. confidence will only add to a person's attractiveness. (i'm married so i don't usually post here, but this time, i can't hold my tongue anymore... Just sharing what i know as a woman who's been through the b/f stuff, really not meant to lecture (hope that's not what it feels like...) and hope i'm making sense... and Best Wishes!quote:Originally posted by angst:What's to love, really?Why wouldn't she want to upgrade?
Yeah, I don't do any of that.quote:with an average person, it is NOT being sick regularly that will drive her away; it is some of the following that frustrate her (i'm truly not saying you do those, i'm sure you don't! just saying this so you'll have peace of mind): stuff like, taking her care for granted, forgetting to thank/appreciate her for the small things she does, shutting her out of your problem instead of letting her in, getting moody without letting her know that your feeling sick at the moment, or too involved in one's own problem and forget to care about hers or how she feels, etc.. Like i said, i'm sure you don't do any of the above! so, you know, it's more for peace of mind!
Yes, but she doesn't want me to do that lately... she feels self-conscious by putting on weight (we had a talk). I tell her that she's hot and sexy all the time, though.quote:Great oral sex? It will always raise you high in a woman's esteem!
This, of course, is absolutely true, Amy; and a good thing to keep in mind. Unfortunately, even normals who love each other have relationship problems. It is just when you add in "I never feel good," "I'm always tired," "I can't go out (to eat/drink/dance/see your favourite band/go to the show/go to the museum/go on a holiday)," "I feel too yucky," etc etc it just wears things down and eventually guilt takes over.Don't give up. Try not to medicate yourself so much that you lose touch with why you want to live. Don't just buy cases of diapers or Immodium. Get as many tests for as many possibile causes as you can talk your doctor out of. Fight to win.Markquote:Originally posted by Screamer:We aren't our IBS, it's just a part of us and anyone who loves you will accept you IBS and all.
http://www.geocities.com/vaksam/faq80.htmlI am: submissive, subservient, self-deprecating, and indiscriminately supportive. The IBS brought all those qualities of me out 10-fold.quote:Narcissists can be happily married to submissive, subservient, self-deprecating, echoing, mirroring and indiscriminately supportive spouses. They also do well with masochists. But it is difficult to imagine that a healthy, normal person would be happy in such a folie a deux ("madness in twosome" or shared psychosis).
awww... angst -- please don't put yourself down like that... forgive me for saying this, but it's like a self-diagnosis and please don't do this "diagnosis" to yourself based on a geocities page about a book!quote:Originally posted by angst:I am: submissive, subservient, self-deprecating, and indiscriminately supportive. The IBS brought all those qualities of me out 10-fold.