I know I couldn't wear tampons comfortably until after I started having sex either. I think the hymen is what makes it so uncomfortable.Lately I have been using tampons because my flow is so heavy the first 2 -3 days that I always had accidents with just pads. Of course I need to wear a pad with the tampon and I have still have accidents. It seems like if I sit funny or something I have accidents too. I have also experienced the "removing a semi-dry tampon syndrome" owww Sheesh - men don't know how easy they have it!