AMCI am sorry to hear of this loss. I experienced the same thing about 3 weeks ago. I was having no D at all and then a good friend suddenly at 50 just got up and died with a heart attack. I got so sick about this as he was so young and was just really starting to enjoy his practice and life too. So do not let yourself do this. I identified too much with his wife.Well, to make it short, we went to the funeral. It was at the funeral home but I would think if the cemetery is adjoining the church that doors are open. You could definitely make sure that they will be by just asking the minister or someone with the funeral home that will be there.Before I left I took my anxiety medication and 1 Immodium D and later took another before arriving. It was a 2 hr drive. I also ate one peice of Ezekiel bread in the car and had water. I ate the other on my way home. I did fine in the chapel. I saw friends of old and it was uplifting, and best of all, cool and airconditioned.We decided to go on to the grave site but I had been sick that AM and my husband had also felt puny. When we got there it was blazing hot. I had on a navy suit and the walk to the gravesite was a good long on too. My husband being the wise one, said that I would get hot and when I do he knows that I get D. So we decided to not stay for the burial. There were so many there anyway. I was going to try to make it as I had not eaten that day but the bread but still, one never knows about panic. I had a panic pill so thought I would be ok unless it was too long and then I knew that I would roast and get sick.I would definitely take some Immodium D and I do wish that your family doctor would call something in for you to relax you. As I said before, you appear to have anxiety and panic as I do. In fact, I got away to lunch too fast today, ate pineapple im my salad on an emty stomach and got sick. I think it was, as well ,an early panic attack as my stomach has not had spasms is many months. I did my breathing deep breathing too and that helped. It was mild but I was glad to return home. Then my anxiety med kicked in! A little late. I have told you about the portable car toilet we rigged up so that is another choice. I would not go anywhere without it at this stage but might later. We keep in in the hatch but it is nearby.Inquire from the funeral director or someone at church about this. Just tell them that you have been sick the past month or so and might need the ladies room open. Leave it a that and they will. I am sure that the chruch should stay open as they have to clean it after the service.I hope you will take some of my advice as other my being IBS and you UC, we seem to have a lot in common. I hope you are still getting out more too. I am.------------------trishb[This message has been edited by trishb (edited 10-25-2000).]