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Please help me! I get the classic symptoms of IBS frequently, but the abdominal pain is what bothers me most. It makes me very nervous and gives me so much anxiety, it sometimes feels as if it controls my life. In addition to having IBS, I unfortunately have a HUGE fear of vomiting, and this is what makes me nervous every time I get abdominal pain. I know deep down inside that I am not gonna vomit, but that is always on my mind with this. I do not mind having to run to the bathroom, because as far as I am concerned, if someone is going to judge me by that, then they are not a true friend anyway. The thing I hate most is that I get so nervous and anxious that I worry myself into being nauseous, and in turn, I end up fearing that I will vomit. I do not know exactly why I am afraid of vomiting, but it is my worst fear. It always has been. This happened to me tonight at a restaurant with my family, and they are so supportive of me and help me through the nervousness and anxiety, but I am only in my 20s and not married, so I am worried that when I meet a nice man to marry, I will be too nervous and embarrassed about my anxiety. Please, if anyone can help me out and tell me some calming techniques, I will be so appreciative. I do not want this to rule my life. I am a fun person and I love to go out to eat, but I worry too much every time I go now, also because I got a mild case of food poisoning from food at a catering hall back in June 1999 and I threwup three times. I had not thrown up before that for 11 years, so I was very nervous and anxious, and now every time I eat out, I get nervous that the same thing will happen to me. Thank you so much for listening, you are all so wonderful!If you would prefer, you may email me your replies to this at Bangzoom6877###aol.com------------------Thanks and feel good,Bonnie
 
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....I thought I was the only one with the fear of throwing up! I will do anything to avoid having to throw up. When I got pregnant with my daughter, I never threw up one single time. I think it was because I was fighting it so hard! Sometimes I thought if I would throw up I would feel so much better. Ever since I was little I always had a fear of it. My daughter on the other hand...seeks out the toilet and away she goes, no problems. She can throw up one minute and just stand up, and say "ok, I'm done!" If it were me I would be a nervous wreck, bawling on the floor! You are definately not alone in your fear of throwing up! My anxiety is mainly caused by the fear of having to go to the bathroom, and it 100 times worse if I am in a car. My doctor gave me Zoloft to help, and has now added Buspar. I am hoping I will get some results, if it works, I am going on the longest car ride of my life!!! I agree with the post above, I would talk to your doctor about anti-anxiety meds!
Hang in there!
 
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I have a relaxing suggestion you could try. I go to a shrink and he suggested it and it works for me. The hard part is trying to explain it without showing you. You breathe in slowly to the count of five. Hold it for another count of 5. Exhale to the count of ten.When you exhale let the air out slowly. You repeat this for about 8 times. You are supposed to do this daily. once a day. Whether you are anxious or not. But when you do get anxious do it even if you have already done itthat day. And I would see about anti-anxiety meds. Anything is worth a try. I hope this helps
 
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You should see a psychiatrist right away, probably for anti anxiety meds and some cognitive therapy to help you. It is important to go soon because I did not treat my anxiety conditions and depression for many years so I became agoraphobic and am still struggling with it. I was afraid of drugs and therapists at the time.
 
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No worries bonnie... you and I can marry and we could run to the bathroom together.
Grancom1 has the sweetest advice of all...it's not hard to explain. To relax, you breath in through your nose filling your belly until comfortable, nice smooth breath, hold it for a four count, and then blow it out your mouth like blowing a candle. Take longer to blow out than it did to inhale. My sure it's a belly breathe tho, and not a chest breathe.I loved coffee bonnie, and chocolate...I know even if I have a tea or coffee in the morning, that my evening meal will be stressful from IBS. Steer clear. But here's a nice replacement...chamomile tea, maybe an acquired taste, but drink it with / after supper and it helps settle the tummy and the nerves.At night, I pull out the high test... a tea with Passion Flower, Hops, Chamomile, Catnip, orange peel and spearmint.. lovely... helps my IBS so much, and lulls me gently to sleep.Seeing a psychologist is not a bad idea either, one may be able to help you address it in other effective ways. IBS and anxiety were a nasty pair for me wherer on seemsed to aggrivate the other back and forth. But, I don't panick anymore, i just get anxious...although it's not very pleasant, I've found ways (breathing and visualization) to deal with it. With the anxiety under control, the ibs spasms subside(left ribs, low left and right, lower back, solarplex)and before I know it , i'm right as rain. When drinking the chamomile, my tummy doesn't spasm much at all, and then I don't get anxiety. So I can handle this from either end of the stick. But still, i'm steering clear of coffee, white sugar, and chocolate.What do you fear most about throwing up, if you would care to talk? I always feared the embarrasment of someone hearing me...so one time after too many beer, instead of trying to do it quietly...I made as much noise as I possibly could. Anyone within earshot of course had a chuckle, but most have done it at one time in their life and understand. I had the same sort of anxiety of public washrooms, making too much noise... usually I couldn't go number 2 until the coast was clear, until one day I discussed this strange quirk of mine with a friend, and we decided that instead of hiding like a mouse... that I should engage in direct competition and try to make more noise than my neighboring stalls. I often pick up the gold medal now.
It's strange, that if you can identify what your fear is...exactly...and then face it in any strange, bizzare, or entertaining way, you find that your fear really isn't that huge heavy ball... just a little gumdrop.Please feel free to email if you like.
 
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MISSBONNIE, My heart and soul are with you on this. I can only go out and relax if I take Immodium AD at least 1/2 hour before I go out. Since I started this I do not have cramping or anxiety and my husband is much more relaxed because he doesn't have to worry about getting me to a bathroom in record time. I know this is not a cure-- but it does allow me a more relaxed outing. I've been assured taking this, the way that I am , will not hurt me. I am not able to take anti-depressants or anti-anxiety meds because I am too sensitive to the side effects---I am often light-headed and dizzy without them, so they exaggerate those symptoms in me. Hope you find some relief.
 
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WOW! I can't believe it! Someone else with the "throwing up" fear. I not only fear myself throwing up, but I HATE being around others that throw up. Especially if they have the flu...I have this horrible fear of getting it so I avoid it at all costs!I really don't know why I'm like that but I am. I thought I was alone on that one.
 
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the breathing exercises are very helpful- a lot of panic attacks are precipitated by improper breathing(unconscious hyperventilation)many people breathe improperly their whole lives-(I am one of them, it becomes a habit that we don't even realize)- and can cause weird symptoms- I know- had this for 8 weeks straight last winter- to the point of not being able to stand up and would get horrible water D-thougth I was dying for real- just fear-awful- this exercise forces a person to breathe properly and relaxes one as well- i do this often during the day to fight chronic stress that causes pain in neck , shoulders and back-u can feel the tension leaving your body if u do this properly- it is really amazing- hope this helps, good luck- donnamaria- i also agree with everything everyone else has suggested, thereapy, drugs, whatever it take to be able to function-feel better
 
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Bonnie, I am the same way with the adominal pain and the anxiety and the panic attacks associated with it. I have been seeing a counselor and it seems to give me some help. My panic attacks have seem to be less, my anxiety unfortunately have not subsided. I take xanax for the anxiety when it gets bad. One down side is that it makes you drowsy, so I usually go through the work day like a zombie. I have just read Dr. Weil's book Spontanious Healing and he gives some advice on herbs like peppermint oil capsules or tea, and ginger and chamomile. All of these are supposed to help with calm the stomach. I tried the teas and do not like them so I just purchased them in capsule form and have only been on them a handful of days. I wish you luck in your health and keep the board posted on how you make out.Jennifer
 
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Bonnie, your concerns are almost identical to mine. I am terrified of throwing up and just thinking about the few times in my life that it has happened can bring on extreme anxiety. All of the advice that people have mentioned so far is excellent. I am in therapy with a cognitive behavioral specialist who is wonderful. I am still trying to figure out why I am so afraid, but I am learning how to deal with it better. By the way, I am in my late 20s and I am getting married this summer to a wonderful man who understands my issues -- you will find someone too!Actually, my anxiety about being nauseated for my wedding spurred me to get help.I take xanax for anxiety/panic attacks and I think it helps the nausea as well. It doesn't make me sleepy (I only take .25mg) and I can function fine at work. I have also started taking Paxil for the anxiety which seems to be helping somewhat. My mom has had trouble with nausea also and she swears by ginger pills -- I don't find that they make that much difference, but you might.I hope this BB helps you discover some possible solutions. Feel free to e-mail me directly if you want to discuss this issue further -- we sound like we have a lot in common.Good luck!
 

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I have never heard of the fear of throwing up before. Unfortunately, in my college days, my friends and I would drink so much, make ourselves throw up, and then drink some more. I CAN totally relate to the anxiety of needing to get to a bathroom though. For some reason in my mind, throwing up is less of a taboo than bowel movements. It's weird what stigmas society puts on bodily functions. I am the type of person who will sit on the pot waiting for the bathroom to clear so I can go. I remember many a time holding in pain just so no one would hear. It makes me so sad to think about.Anyway, I would also suggest the antianxiety meds and talking with a psychotherapist. believe me, it doesn't make you a crazy person (another lame stigma) I am a true beliver that something is messed up with the brain chemicals of those of us with IBS and/or anxiety and panic. Why would so many of us have both??? and why does it seem to run in families??? I have been having success with Serzone, i think. At least for the general anxiety. But I took paxil and KNOW i had help with that for IBS. It's a killer of your sex life, though.Hope all goes well for you,LALA
 
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Bonnie - We must be best friends!! I'm 47 years old and have only thrown up 4 times in my life and the last time was when I was 27!! It is a terrible phobia with me. I also hate to be around anyone that is sick - for fear that I will catch it. And I work at a middle school in the office and wait on sick kids every single day. I'm always saying - JUST DON'T THROW UP IN THE OFFICE!! I keep the antibacterial waterless soap on my desk. Luckily for me, my IBS does not cause me nausea. I also take Imodium before going out to eat so I can get through the meal without looking for a toilet. That has helped me so much and eased my nerves. Good luck Bonnie. Write anytime.Ellie
 
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