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When I go on vacation, I usually worry before hand and pray that I don't get sick and ruin the vacation. For some strange reason I am usually symptom free and regular! My dr. said it is probably because I am relaxed and stress free. I usually am very busy, happy and enjoying myself and I don't worry as much. I am amazed at how good I feel and wonder why this can't continue when I get home. I think stress is unavoidable at home and work and with kids. The dr. told me to try and avoid stress. That is impossible. Maybe if I hit the lottery! lol
 
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Dear DBD:Ditto. I've said the same thing many times to my doctor(s). I truly believe that anxiety is much worse than stress. In other words, worrying about a vacation is much harder than being in there actually dealing with whatever happens.I just went on my first "real" vacation in the last ten years. I had a major IBS attack before leaving the house for the airport. And three more episodes before boarding the plane. Then IBS-FREE for 10 days.Perhaps, we IBSers CAN handle stress but not anticipation of it.
 

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I am on vacatin also only I just stayed at home because everytime I thought about going out I would get D. Finally my husband and myself went out for the whole day on Friday I had no pain (nothing) but as soon as I got home and decided to have a piece of pizza I was done for the night. We were even in a traffic jam for 30 minutes and I did not think about it because I had such a good time all day.
 
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Joany,You said it - we IBSers can handle stress but not anticipation of it! This really hit home when I was taking a computer science class awhile back, and I ended up virtually teaching the class one evening when the instructor called in sick and class was "cancelled". This may seem a bit off topic, but I think the same ideas I am about to discuss can apply to IBS and the anxiety it causes us. Let me back up just a bit - I've had a MAJOR phobia about speaking in public since I was about 17 years old. I mean, it was PHYSICALLY something I just couldn't do. I don't mean that I just got butterflies and found it uncomfortable - I mean, I COULD NOT DO IT!!! My voice would literally die out - my lungs would become paralyzed and I couldn't push the air past my vocal cords, so no sound would come out. Then the lighting in the room would start to go dim and I would have to sit down before I passed out. Okay? Now, let's move up to a time that is a little closer to the present time, and here I am sitting in my computer science class, waiting for the instructor to show up, along with the rest of the class. Then someone comes along and lets us know she isn't coming and class is cancelled for the evening. But instead of leaving, people start asking me questions about the material we've been covering in class and the current assignment, since I had a very good understanding of it. The next thing I know, someone is asking me if I would draw some examples of flowcharts on the board - so I did, and thought little of it. While I was up there, people started asking me questions, and I explained it as I went along. At some point, I came to the realization that I was actually teaching the class - and I was really okay with it! Later on I called my mother and told her what had transpired that evening, and she couldn't believe it. She knew how literally paralyzed I became whenever I had to give a public speech of any sort and couldn't imagine me ever doing such a thing. She made a remark that really made me see what I had been doing to myself all these years - she said that all my problems with anxiety and panic attacks were caused by "living in the future". I knew it was true. If someone had told me that I would be teaching class that night, I would have been so sick that I couldn't have shown up for class, or I would have dulled my mind with whatever tranquilizers I could get my hands on in order to get through it. Since I didn't know that I would be teaching class that evening, I didn't spend the entire day "living in the future" - and I was fine!I think the same thing happens with IBS. We might be absolutely fine sitting at home until we know we have to go somewhere - at which time we immediately start "living in the future", and start planning the route that will have the most bathrooms on the way, and we won't go anywhere that doesn't have bathrooms. If we do find ourselves somewhere that doesn't have a bathroom - we immediately feel that urge to go!The question is - how do we keep ourselves from "living in the future"? Unfortunately, I haven't discovered the answer to that one yet, but I do think that the realization of it is half the battle.Debbie
 
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Yes, Debbie, me, too.Isn't it horrific waiting to be called on. I'd rather be "surprised" first off and just get it over. Whenever I take a class or go to a meeting, I try to anticipate in which direction the instructor will begin. Then I find an appropriate seat-- so I won't have to wait -- or, I also like to sit or stand near a door, just in case I decide to bail.However, when something happens SPONTANEOUSLY, I can deal.Along with having spastic colons, we also must have really vivid imaginations.Daybyday: We may have strayed from your original question, but any realization or insight into IBS may prove helpful to one of us.
 
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Daybyday - it depends on whether my vacation is to be spent at home or traveling. I've never been a very good traveler. When I was little, I got carsick (still do sometimes). Since I've had IBS, I always have that urge to go to the bathroom when confined in a car. I do seem to be better on a motorcycle - no car sickness and less problems feeling like I have to go to the bathroom all the time. At home, I'm fine (unless I've been eating my particular trigger foods, which I'm very careful to avoid when traveling).Joany - yes, I have always had the most vivid imagination of anyone I know! I was also born an extreme introvert, which I have spent my lifetime trying to overcome. Anyone else with these personality traits? Debbie
 

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Wow Debbiedoo - that was so neat how you started teaching the class!! I would also rather be surprised. It seems that I can handle things better when it just pops up than when I know about it in advance. When I know about something in advance I start thinking "what if...", my stomach starts getting worse and worse and anxiety levels go through the roof!daybyday, I just had a great weeked vacation for my anniversary and no problems! But I have had other vacations where I felt sick. I seem to do better when it's just me and my hubby b/c then I know if anything happens with my IBS, he understands - this makes me more relaxed and helps greatly! It's a delicate balance of what I eat, stress and mental state. I would love to see how I do on a two week vacation in Hawaii !!
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Wow...thanks for all of the great replies! Don't you think its true that we all have a lot of things in common. I agree that if we know about things in advance we get worked up and nervous but if things just pop up we can deal fine. I think IBS people tend to think into things too much and worry. How can we stop our minds from wondering about what if and I hope I'm not sick that day. I think I am a natural worry wart. I remember from when I was little getting stomachaches and my Mom said I had a nervous stomach. It helps to know there are other people who feel the same.
 
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To Debidoo - boy can I relate. I used to stay home from school even in elementary school if I knew I had to make a speech of any kind. I'd get such shortness of breath I literally could not speak. Ironically, I teach JaZZERCISE AND CAN GET UP IN A ROOM FULL OF PEOPLE AND NOT ONLY TALK A MILE A MINUTE BUT DO THE AEROBICS AT THE SAME TIME. The difference - everyone is doing the program with me. They are too busy trying to follow me, they have no time to judge me. I think folks like us are deep down perfectionists and have a hard time accepting any failure. When will we learn to relax and accept that we are only humans not machines. I wish there was a med for that.
 
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My last vacation, in June, seemed to bring my IBS back at full attack. I had had a few weeks of minimal D, so I was feeling good about vacation. Get to Florida and tried to enjoy Disney World and Universal Studios, instead I got a good view of every single bathroom at both places.I am going on vacation again in a couple of weeks and am hoping that the Caltrate Plus does its thing. I wasn't on it in June. I am trying not to stress about it and cause pre vacation D, like a lot of you have described here.Chris------------------If a toilet is my throne, I want a padded seat!!
 
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