I am so worried about my husband. A parasite event 3 years ago triggered his issues. His pain has been on again and off again for those 3 years. It has been on and severe for the last 4 or 5 months. He had full gastro testing - diagnosis is IBS. He has been on several anti-spasmodics such as Donnatol and all the others. They worked great, but had bladder/urinary side effects so had to go off of them.. It was determined that his issues are probably anxiety driven. He is definitely a worry-wart! So, he went on Lexapro a month ago. Half dosages for the first 10 days, then full 10 mg dose for the last 20 days. About 2 weeks ago he decided he "can't take the pain" anymore so decided to supplement with shots of vodka. He is a drinker anyway with a tendency towards addiction, so that is of course a huge concern! He says the vodka helps the pain and he can get through important days and events with it. Thankfully, he is retired so does not have to hold down a job.. He now says his pain is the same if not worse than it was prior to the lexapro AND he takes shots of vodka every few hours. BUT, now he barely leaves the bedroom all day. He always would come out and get a few things done around the house.. But, not now.He is now saying he just doesn't want to live. I tried to figure out if he truly is suicidal (I don't think so) or if he is just feeling sorry for himself. I think the vodka is bringing him down further mentally. I just don't know what to do other than drag him to a psychologist unwillingly.I know there is hope in that the lexapro can still "Kick In" in the next couple of weeks. I also bought him a self-hypnosis for IBS CD program... He is on Day 3..I just got done "reading him the riot act" and am now sorry that I added to his anxiety. But, I just don't know what to do for him. I told him to stop the vodka immediately to see if that is aggravating his mental and physical condition, but he obviously doesn't want to go that route..I could use some guidance now. I don't know whether to do an intervention, ignore the alcohol for another week or two, or just let him be and get counseling for myself. After all, he is an adult. Suggestions would be so greatly appreciated!Thank you!!!