[andrel07]

Hi All....

This has been bothering me for a while now and I need to vent about it...Has anyone else had a relationship with a friend or partner who knows all about your IBS and knows you shouldn't get stressed out, but they still continue to make life difficult and upset you?Well I currently have just that.... A friend of mine is being a complete pratt ( couldn't think of a polite way of putting that) He knows how bad my IBS gets, he's even been with me to the hospital to see a specialist!!! However we are currently having a huge arguement and instead of leaving things be he keeps going on and on at me!! Making more and more stressed out! I have now had to change my mobile phone number to stop the text messages that he sends me.Why can people not just leave things be and just accept a difference of opinion?

Aghhhhhhh!!!!!

I hate being stressed!! This is also the last thing I need at the moment I have to go for my Sigmoidoscopy next week and I'm petrified.

Sorry for the vent, I'm just hoping that someone understands what it's like.Leanne

 

[Vicky Foster]

Aw, i hate arguements xI guess your friend must just be very opinionated and too wrapped up in their need to have the last word that they've forgotten the effect their actions have on your tummy.Hope you get everything sorted out with both your friend and your IBS.xxx

 

[Kestrel]

First: don't stress about the sigmoidoscopy. Its actually pretty quick and painless. Mine was over and done w/ in less than 15 mins. However thing were backed up at the hospital that day and I spent 4 hrs waiting for the stupid thing! ARG!

Second: I'd tell that 'friend' to get stuffed. If they know about your condition and still feel the need to be an ass then you might be better off w/o them.

Hugz,Kestrel

 

[kme16]

Hello. My friends are kind of the same way. They know there is something wrong with me, they know it's IBS, yet they still don't get it. They insist upon taking off different places in a car once they have me in there (I am always fine, but the anxiety is terrible) and they always forget and ask me out to eat. It makes me angry because I think they think it is a once in awhile deal when it is all the time for me. I have to cope with it 24/7, so they should remember that. Thanks for letting me feel like I am not alone in the battle against being social with IBS.

 

[veggirl]

I would ignore that person as well. If you do wind up talking to them, I would let them know that with or with out this condition, such harassment and acting like an ass is not something a person should tolerate from a so-called "friend."I do understand where you are coming from in this case. I've cut off communications with people to avoid all the added baggage. Sometimes not having a friend is better than having a friend that brings about grief that only compromises your health.I hope you are doing better!a

 

[LexiP]

Sometimes it is a good idea to remember that your reaction is seperate to another's action. In other words, you do not have to react to your friend. If they are harrassing you I recommend sending them a well worded email along the lines of,"I understand we are in disagreement. Because arguing is negatively affecting me and is not bringing us into agreement, could you please cease discussing this topic with me. Thank you."It doesn't have to elaborate how much it is affecting you, or how. Just a way of saying "Back off!"good luck!

 

[andrel07]

Hi All,Been a long time since I have posted here, my friend I hardly talk, when we do we still have the odd disagreement so I decided that it wasn't worth the hassle. We're now going our seperate ways which is kind of sad

but a relief too.

I have also had my sigmoidoscopy, and I ahve to admit it wasn't as bad as I'd thought it would be. Haven't had the results back yet, so fingers crossed.Thanks for listening to me ramble on.Leanne