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I can't keep living with this much pain and fear.Nobody seems to be willing to tell me what's wrong. They keep saying it's just IBS. IBS isn't supposed to make my effing suicidal.I haven't been able to eat a real meal in over 2 weeks. Everything that hits my stomach makes me feel like I'm being stabbed. I can't sleep more than 10 minutes at a time because I wake up screaming in pain.I can't work. I can't take care of my daughter. I've been to the doctor so many times over the last couple of weeks, but nobody's offering me any real help. I don't just want a bunch of pain meds. I want to know what the Hell is wrong with me. Acupuncture made me feel better for a few minutes. Peppermint oil makes me feel a little better for about half an hour. I'm going to die. If I don't die of some undiagnosed problem that they're unwilling to investigate, I'm going to die of my own will. I can't keep living like this.
 

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Pain from nerves going nuts is some of the worst pain in the world.Are they only offering narcotics? Which usually end up making abdominal pain worse over time, so if you are taking narcotics that may need to stop to break the cycle of increasing sensitivity.Antidepressants usually are the main treatment and are not generally called pain medication. They may also help with the mood issues. When the mind gets anxious and depressed and suicidal that will make all symptoms of all things so much worse than if you could be in a better mental state.Please call the suicide hotline in your area before you do anything that will scar your child for life much more and much more deeply than you being sick will ever do. Do you really want her to blame herself for your death, because that is what kids do.
 

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Wonkycolon-I know exactly how you feel,i to suffer all the time with distressing symtoms,and it is not made any easier when nothing seems to help.Kathleens advice about antidepressants and helpline i would try and also let your GP/Doctor know exactly how you are feeling.Talking to a Councellor may help to.Do you have a partner,close family or friend you can talk to who is supportive.Take care.
 

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Who said that IBS wouldn't make you suicidal? So many people who have posted here have felt suicidal at some point in their illness, myself included. And anybody who says "it's just IBS" hasn't had it. The big thing about IBS is that because it isn't obviously caused by anything, there isn't an obvious cure or treatment. It's hard to believe that such pain could be caused by malfunctioning nerves when it feels like something is eating your guts from the inside out. But really it can be from such a simple (although difficult to treat) thing. Chronic pain can be like that - just ask someone with fibromyalgia.I was in a pretty similar place to you about six months ago, albeit not quite as bad. I would be woken up by the stabbing pains after a few hours rather than minutes but otherwise I thought that I was suffering from some horrible undiagnosable disorder and that my life, as I knew it, was over. However, I got it pretty much under control after a few weeks with diet and supplements to the point where the pain was annoying rather than devastating. Using the hypno tapes and anti-depressants, it's now pretty good. I have short episodes of pain but it in no way rules my life. So take heart from those who have been there and done that. There is a way out and back to your old life.
 

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Of course IBS is enough to make you feel suicidal!! The constant aggrovation and feeling of being out of control, feeling in pain all the time, not being able to live a normal life. If you let it take over.i was like that 6 months ago. Mainly due to IBS. I am 17 and i had to go to my GP 2 months ago to request going on anti-depressance, i don't like the idea that i take tablets to make me feel happy. But its a lot better than feeling the way that i did. Perhaps you should speak to your GP if you are feeling so depressed, its not healthy otherwise.My dad attempted suicide a few years ago and its something i have never gotten over, it was the reason my IBS started, i just couldn't take the stress of it and really i am still angry at him and find it hard to come to terms with. You say you also have a daughter, it would affect her massively. My dad attempting suicide brought on problems like panic attacks, IBS and is part of the reason i suffer from depression now as it ruined our relationship. would you want that for your little girl?Try anything you can, its never easy. Try some tablets that will help your IBS and i agree with JillyWindy that anti-depressance are a good idea really.i use them, and im only seventeen
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"I don't just want a bunch of pain meds. I want to know what the Hell is wrong with me."This is one of the main issues, your in pain and want to know whats wrong which scares you as your worried what it could be which then makes your symptoms alot worse! Your given pills to ease the pain so take them and if they dont work tell your Doc so you can try something else. I also hate taking pills to make me feel better when I dont know whats wrong, i want to know whats wrong without taking pills but sadly it doesnt always work like that and if I've learned anything Its that it takes time to find out whats wrong so you have to deal with taking pills until its resolved.As for the pain your suffering I would go to your A & E or ER when you are in the most pain not when you only have slight pain so that they can see the full extent of what your suffering and tell them your going nowhere till you get help! Most people wont do this as they are either to embarressed its something simple but sod it go camp out at the Hospital if its that bad.I also know what you mean about others not realising what you are going through but with these boards there are so many people who will listen and try to help so dont think you are alone, they maybe cannot help ease the pain but they can help ease your mind which does help.STOP the suicide thing though, you mentioned you had a daughter so for starters that kind of talk is doing you no good at all as your probably wondering whats going to happen to her if something is wrong with you? If you are thinking this then STOP, I've been through this so many times the past few months as I have a young son along with older children and have a bad habit of thinking the worst but I have realised my symptoms get alot worse when thinking like this! The past 3 or 4 days my stomach has been realy bloated/hard and sore but today the aches and pains have not been that bad so its weirdly eased my mind even though i had a strange stool today, maybe getting rid of the weird stool helped ease the pain?My point is one day can be bad and the next not so bad so your mind is working overtime wondering whats going on.Anyway your pain is most likely nothing serious but still causing you obvious distress so again if its that bad which I'm sure it is then take the pills and get to the only people who can help and tell them you need them to do something. I hope you get it sorted soon and get back to us and let us know how your doing.
 

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i've had ibs for at least 5 yrs if not longer and every exacerbation feels worse, and i think it's the end. this time my stomach has been bloated and hard upper abdomin, i almost went to the er last night. i just started taking my levbid and drinking lots of water, eating bland no fat and praying i'm starting to feel better. i take pro biotics and felt they were helping haven't had an attack in over 5 months and then it hit. under alot of stress at work!!!! promised my granddaughter i would attend a mother daughter banquet tomarrow and just praying i can do it, i have to drive an hour and 45 min to get there. i've been running to the bathroom all day, watery diarrhea. my pcp is not very sympathetic and i think the gastro's are just as bad. am trying a new one she wants me on antibiotic and reglan , i can't take all the meds. my upper abd is burning and hard and very tender, it hurts for my shirt to brush against it!!! so i now how you feel, it's a living hell!!! but somehow i always make it through. it's all about getting a food regimen that works and sticking to it. when i start feeling better, i always start eating what i shouldn't, then all hell breaks loose, stress is also a big factor. hang in there god bless
 

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I totally get where you're coming from. I've had an awful day and I just came home from work and cried. Just when I thought things were getting better I've had a day of awful D and my stomach is killing me. I don't know what the point is anymore. I don't want to live like this. I'm still young, I should be out having fun, being spontaneous. But I can't. My friends do stuff and I sit at home because my stomach hurts and I need to be near to a toilet.It's destroyed my confidence. I don't dare do anything anymore in case I get an attack. I'm in pain all the time. I just want it to stop; I try to stay positive but it's hard. You only get to live once and my life is being wasted like this. I'm not going to get to do any of the things I've always dreamed of doing. I'm trapped
 

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Whatever you do, dare to do some things rather than sit at home. Try to think of the worst thing that could happen and have an exit strategy for if it does. Even if that means wearing incontinence pants for the first few times until you have the confidence to go without or rushing home half way through an outing. Better than not going out at all. I'd rather poop into my wet suit than not be able to do my water sports. I have had an accident once when I haven't managed to reach the rest room in time and fortunately the outcome wasn't that bad I was able to deal with it.
 

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Aww yes, getting a food regimen that works. Someone posted that. I agree with that totally.That's where all my problems are coming from. I can sort of get on a food regimen that works, but because I'm a people pleaser I keep falling off the wagon and eat things cause they look good or to please someone else. I have been so unbelievably sick that I am on the verge of going onto disability, so I have been very depressed about that. I can go onto a pared down restricted diet that does help me to get thru the work day. However, there are constant tempations around me. I am declining all social invites that involve food cause I know what will happen. I will get sick. Will be off of work. And it's only a matter of time before my boss starts calling me on it. And then probably forced onto disability. People always think they know best how I should eat. Got into a big fight with my bf cause of that on Friday. Got really mad at him. People don't realize I am trying to keep together what little semblance I have left of a life together. The reason I'm so freaked out is cause on top of the IBS I had norovirus (stomach flu), then 2 months later, food poisoning and then a week later another similar instance to food poisoning. So I am literally walking on egg shells. And my dig system is not very strong after these 3 instances in a row. So I am really struggling. I used to be able to eat yogurt just fine until the food poisoning. Since then, I have not been able to tolerate yogurt at all. And I used to eat a lot of yogurt. It was the food I always ate when my IBS was the worse. So I have lost my favorite "sick" food. I now sip on a lemonade drink all day long to give me energy. Fresh lemonades, maple syrup, spring water and a touch of olive oil. Makesk me happy. I get tired of making big batches of it all the time and carrying it around with me everywhere I go. I wish people would just leave me alone. It doesnt' matter how many times I tell them I'm sick or how I tell them, they just don't get it. I usually just say I can't eat. People don't get it. Really frustrates me. So what I was meaning to say is that I have been very very depressed (in waves) about it. Not wanting to live. Praying God will take me... but I keep pluggin along. Praying that things will get better. But when I look back in timei when I was better, I get very depressed.... hang in there
 

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I know exactly what you mean about feeling you want to or are going to die from the pain. I was diagnosed way back in 1984, and have lived with it since the age of 6 (after finding out the diagnoses, I knew.) Upon being diagnosed the doctor told me to increase my fiber intake, gave me hycosamine (sp?) and that was it. I have been in therapy since 1993, on antidepressants and anxiety meds. Those meds have helped, but the cycle of constipation/diarrhea continues. This past week I developed really bad pain in the upper right area. The pain and depression got so bad I found myself sitting and contemplating ways to kill myself. I finally got into self talk and relaxation exercises. Then I remembered that two weeks ago I had been taking ibuprofen twice a day for 5 days, and had used my Imitrex three days in a row. Score! I knew what I had to do. I took two Senokot-S and lots of water. I know this isn't a recommended treatment, at least as far as I know, but when the constipation gets as bad as it was, I do this. I deal with diarrhea mostly, and tend to forget about the constipation until it is upon me. I take Benefiber every single day of the world, but after taking a lot of pain meds, boom, there it is, the serious constipation monster.This IBS is horrible, and real. For me, things get out of whack long days after I have offended my colon, so it seems to come out of nowhere. I used to keep a journal of what I have eaten, and meds I have taken so I can look back and find a cause for a bad flare. I need to start doing this again. I think my low thyroid accounts for why it takes a while for stuff to get down to my colon.I wish you every good fortune. I wish you life and hope.
 

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I've been depressed for months during and after my baddest attack 2 yrs ago. I thought my life was coming to an end and from that moment and I wont be able to take care of my family.Looks like antidepressants are weapons of choice for neuropathic pain and IBS pain but PLEASE have in mind that suicide incidents are extremely common in the beginning of the ad therapy!
 

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You know something dude? I USED TO FEEL EXACTLY LIKE YOU, I was always terrified about how I was going to live my life with this problem, but you know what? I said the hell with it. Im going to live with it whether i like it or not, and as such everytime i get an attack, i just deal with it, be it good or bad I dont care. Just tough it out. I know the thoughts of having a flare in the middle of a public place or on the road or just anywhere is scary. But you know what? just do it. If your driving and you feel that feeling, pull over and do it. It does'nt matter who sees you or why. Youll have embarrased yourself, but at least you did not that have to suffer anymore than you already have. If your in the middle of dinner at a restaurant, excuse your self until you feel better. Who cares if someone thinks your weird? Just tough it out and keep on fighting it. If you get upset when you have this problem, think of the good things and forget about what is happening to you, in an hour or less youll be back on your feet feeling better. If it happens again just do something that makes you feel better.
 

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While sitting at home for two years, sick and in pain (besides watcing every Lifetime movie), I wrote a book. I realize not everyone can write and it had been a dream of mine a long time ago. It was hard but it did make being at home "feel" a little more productive and take my mind off the pain and suffering. . . and I could sit on the toilet or hours and type. I have found our gut flora and the pills, yogurts and such (besides Bubbies and Kilfur) do NOT get where they need to go and just often create more gas and problems. Right now I am on a mission to find a way to restore my colon flora (aside from the fecal transplant which U.S. doctors have never done and seem to think it's a joke), what can I do? Most probotics just double me over in more pain. There must be some company out there that has found a way to bypass or protect the bacteria from the "trip and acid" and get it into the colon. Anyone? I can ask this over on the OTC thread too. I am so sorry the OP is in so much pain. Vicodin, Zyprexa, Marinol and Antibiotics worked for me.
 

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I hear ya. I came down with what they say is IBS about 6 months ago, and it's really peaked lately. I've been in the ER twice in the last 9 days. Cat scans, blood work, xrays, urine test...they can't find anything wrong with me.On top of that my girlfriend is on the verge of dumping me which she just laid on me the day after I got home from the ER. I'm normally a very strong guy. I'm in my late 20s, have a good career, good life. But this has driven me to the edge. I spent the whole weekend crying and feel like I could cry again right now.
 

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I know how you feel also, I have Ibs-d every day and am bloated in pain and full of wind, the D comes with such urgency and I take 3-4 Imodium every day and still have 1-2 loose bms a day, the pain is unbearable at times and the gastro specialist says there is nothing physically wrong. I also have terrible hemerrhoids(piles) which are painful and a rectal mucosal lining prolapse. I hate going out, I get so uptight , I always carry spare clothes and wipes, so frightened of an accident. I dont work and only occasionally leave the house. I hate my life and have thoughts that I would be better of dead. I have had cbt and on anxiety meds and see a councellor monthly, but it all gets too much at times. I hate this Ibs and can sympathise with all of you. I have tried to get on with my life, but it is so hard.
 

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I know how you feel also, I have Ibs-d every day and am bloated in pain and full of wind, the D comes with such urgency and I take 3-4 Imodium every day and still have 1-2 loose bms a day, the pain is unbearable at times and the gastro specialist says there is nothing physically wrong. I also have terrible hemerrhoids(piles) which are painful and a rectal mucosal lining prolapse. I hate going out, I get so uptight , I always carry spare clothes and wipes, so frightened of an accident. I dont work and only occasionally leave the house. I hate my life and have thoughts that I would be better of dead. I have had cbt and on anxiety meds and see a councellor monthly, but it all gets too much at times. I hate this Ibs and can sympathise with all of you. I have tried to get on with my life, but it is so hard.
Guys,Have you all thought that the main cause of IBS can be a fungal overgrowth in the intestines??? Have you ever tried an anticandida protocol ???Do it for 3 months with the right anticandida diet and antifungals and see what happen. I am sure most of you will be a lot better if not totally well. Jorge
 

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Guys,Have you all thought that the main cause of IBS can be a fungal overgrowth in the intestines??? Have you ever tried an anticandida protocol ???Do it for 3 months with the right anticandida diet and antifungals and see what happen. I am sure most of you will be a lot better if not totally well. Jorge
Jorge...... Where can you get info about the anticandida diet and antifungals......... I will try anything!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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I know the feeling and I know the feeling that no one takes you seriously cause when I say that I would like to take my own life all I hear is "dont say that again" I read the same thing in so many of the reply's............ I JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON........ I feel the same way and the Doc's are generally either arrogant or think you are a drug addict or a hypochondriac and just send you on your way........ I would litterally slice myself open and pull it all out piece by piece myself but I wouldnt know what to look for...... I dont know what to eat, what not to eat, what to do...... I am sorry you hurt so bad cause I hurt to and I know how bad it is........ All I can offer is that I will pray for you just as I pray for myself every night for somebody to tell me why I hurt if there is nothing physically wrong...... the antidepressants, pain meds, antispasmotics......... well they help maybe an hour or two by knocking me out for a nap but like you I dont rest at night, I never seem to get relief and my family just doesnt understand...... God bless you I wish I could help
 
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