It's a common situation a lot of women with ibs find themselves in, including me. I could say try keeping a food diary at lunch and dinner times, sometimes a simple diet change can help at least some of the time. Relaxation excercises at night can help too, and they can be done right from the couch as you watch tv. Relax your ab muscles by tightening and untightening them several times and practice shallow breathing as well. If all else fails make time for morning sex it's a great way to start the day and it makes men happy.