Miralax is what they put me on, I only take it when I start getting plugged up. unfortunetely they have no medicine like Zelnorm for males. so I don't exactly know how you feel involving those things. Every once in a while though after eat(most of the time if it's milk I might be lactose intolerent) I get really bad D. but i've never had to clear my self out. but just calm down, try to take the pain and everything else one at a time. it won't kill you(even though it may feel like it.) i'm guessing the headaches are from the stress of all this, take some Ibprofuin that should help with your headaches. currently nothing i've done works for me, so i'm still in constant pain, so i know what you're going through in those terms. (if you find anything that works be sure to tell me!) Happy holidays to you too. =)Aron