I am so glad I found this topic.I myself started menses at 9. My mom did too. Well she went through and was done with her periods by 44.I am 38 close to 39. I made a dr. run blood work only to be told I was not in menopause. I keep going to dr.s and they keep saying I.m depressed. I am NOT. I'm too young for menopause.In the last year I have more panic, wieght gain, lethargic, my periods seem to be everyother month lately. They were everymonth and I thought I was bleeding to death. Then my IBS-D got worse. Ended up being the Effexor and Stress of mom's death. She told me way before she died I sounded how she got.A week ago I quit Effexor and I feel better. I can think, and accomplish more than ever. Still got those damn brain zaps at night.Anyway How do I convince these dr.s I am not depressed that I feel I am in perimenopause. So my hormones are normal but I get night sweats, wake up soaked, have trouble sleeping, NO SEX DRIVE, weight gain, fatigue, weird periods, etc...Just wondering.Vamplady