HI all,I found this board several months ago and really haven't posted as I've been busy with work and dealing with my son's IBS/C.Tommy was diagnosed with IBS in Sept when he was 9. He has turned 10 since then and we really have found no relief. He's been on homebound a couple of times, I'm thinking of asking the doc to put us back on it. I have switched docs because the first doctor insisted on treating Tommy's IBS as completely emotionally related, he even wanted me to leave him in his room alone at night to suffer! This is a wonderful doctor who really knows his stuff, but we had a complete disagreement on what is causing Tommy's pain. I should add that Tommy is in almost constant pain, varying levels, but for the last two weeks the pain has been severe and almost non relenting. We've been to a new doc, MY doc actually, and we are very happy with her. Tommy is now on probiotics and fibercon (when I can get him to drink enough water to take it - when he's in pain it hurts!), as well as donnatol. Not much success with the donnatol, very disappointing. I am waiting for a call from the doctor because I am ready to try him on a tricycle antidepressant, which we were going to wait a week to start to see if this crisis stops. But after last night, I can't wait. I sent Tommy to school today even though he was in pain, because he has missed so much, it will be a week today since he's been in school. Tommy is VERY smart but I fear he may not pass 4th grade due to absences. I know I am not making any sense, just bouncing around with my thoughts, but I am so frustrated and depressed and GUILTY. Mommies are supposed to make things better. Not only am I a Mom, I'm a nurse as well and I'm still powerless to do anything.We are going to be going back to UVA soon. We have already been there and I feel we were basically blown off. Put him in therapy. Everyone says that. I tried once, but he was so angry about it that I feel it did more harm than good. We ARE going to try biofeedback, but with a different psychologist. I'm not saying that stress does not play a part, I know it does, but there are other things going on as well. Tommy has been constipated since infancy, I remember having to use a thermometer to help him have a bowel movement when he was about 2 months old. I also recently learned that he has been DISIMPACTING himself since about age 5!!! So, I don't believe it's all in his head.Now I am wondering what tests I should ask for, and if there is any literature available about IBS having physiological causes that I can arm myself with. I have had it with these doctors, but they are my only resource when it comes to testing, medications, etc. I cannot stand to see my child suffer anymore. He has gained NO weight since September, has actually lost about 4 lbs. Not much, I know, but when you are a skinny, growing 10 year old boy, it's not healthy. God, I wish someone could just fix this for us. I dont' know how much more either one of us can stand.I am so sorry this is so long, but no one else understands and I know you all do. Even my husband doesn't really understand and thinks Tommy is making this all up. I feel so alone. Thanks for listening.Laura