[Guest]

hey, i'm talon, i'm new here, but don't worry i am familiar with UBB so don't worry about any newbie stuffs.i am 16 and have had ibs for the last year. don't know any specifics. i take dicetel. it sometimes helps but not usually. every two weeks or so, i get lots of evil pains and stuff and don't do anything.this causes a lot of stress on me, which becomes depression and causes more evil pains. and sometimes, it gets me a little suicidal.what can i do. how the hell do you people live like this! the only thoughts on my mind when i am in lots of pain are:1) get home2) end life somehowplease help me. the doctors say theres nothing can be done. i barely go places and have been off school for a few days now... there's got to be something to relieve my depression and stop this damn thing.------------------l33t haxor.

 

[NewForMe]

First I would talk to your parents about getting to the doc for possibly prescribing and anti-depressant. What type of IBS do you suffer from - running to the bathroom alot or wishing you could go? Once we know that we will be better to help you with what might help. Don't let this get you down, many people here suffer the same way. Stay around here too because the support is great.

 

[Guest]

Talon,Hang in there! Life is worth living: with or without IBS! (we will help you work on the without!) It took me several years before I could get a handle on what this was and how to live around it. Yes, it is discouraging having to live around IBS, but it can be done. When you start thinking that you can't live this way, think about how your family would feel if you weren't here! You can live with this, you just have to be smarter than the IBS. Don't let it ruin your life, it just makes it more challenging. As miserable as sometimes the days are, there are people out there living in a world where IBS would be the least of their problems. You may have to adjust your lifestyle and do some serious record keeping to see what triggers you may have and be on some type of anti-depressant or other medication, but that is liveable! As long as you are breathing in and out and your heart is beating there is hope and there is life! Good luck to you! You can do it!

 

[Guest]

Talon,I think its important to find a doctor you are comfortable with. Its really important that you feel OK telling your doctor everything your going through. Also you might want to discuss with your parents what type of tests they are running on you. Its important that they rule things out. Personally, I've felt like some doctors haven't taken my complaints seriously. I have switched doctors several times. What has helped me most is monitoring my diet and excersising. I do streching mostly. I take calcium and have noticed a huge difference. It may help you to review the board and see what has worked for others. This board has given me more insight to this problem then any doctor has. If you find something you think might help ask about it everybody here is very supportive. Ask your doctor, too. I think, having IBS is about 90 percent trying to figure it out yourself. Most importantly, DO NOT THINK YOUR ALONE!!!! Don't ever feel like giving up. You are too important. You need to speak to your parents if you are feeling this way. You may need help dealing with depression. We have all been there. I know you probably don't want to talk to your parents about feeling this way(I'm 28 and still don't like talking to my mom about this stuff) But being a mom myself now I know that I would do anything for my child. There are also counsellers at school or your doctor, its hard asking for help but sometimes you have to. If your feeling depressed and suicidal it may not be something you can control. Please! Please!Talk to someone to make sure. Always remeberYOU WILL BE OK!!!

 

[BBolen Ph.D]

In addition to struggling with IBS, you also sound quite depressed. You need to speak with your parents about getting some treatment for the depression, whether it be counseling or antidepressant medication, both of which will also help to alleviate some of your physical symptoms. If you follow through on this you may not feel so hopeless.------------------This input is provided solely for educational purposes and is not to be seen as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always consult a qualified professional about your personal medical needs and any questions you may have regarding this information.

 

[Guest]

djtalon, IBS IS depressing. But you are not alone, and everything is transitory. What you are feeling now is not what you'll be feeling tomorrow, or the next day. You WILL feel better. All of us have had good and bad days. I notice that for me, this runs in cycles. Also, find a doctor who will listen to you. My doctor has a huge sense of humor, and that always helps me. There's a new song by U2 that's called "Stuck In A Moment You Can't Get Out Of", and at the end Bono says.."And if your way should falter, along the stony pass, it's just a moment, this time will pass". It reminds me that bad times do pass, and when I listen to it, I get a little lift. This bad time will pass for you as well.Love, DebbieP.S. Keep posting!!!

 

[Guest]

Hi talon,I agree with what the others said. I have to jump in here and say this though.1. Get home.2. End life somehow. Now lets see here. Can you try this???1. Get home...until I am comfortable with feeling "icky" somewhere else.2. Get to the Dr and tell him I feel AWFULand that there has to be something to help me deal with this. (there is ya know)3. End THIS way of life.There is the clue. THIS way.I know this is frustrating and maddening but there is help and there is hope. If you can't talk to your parents then talk to the Dr. Your old enought to make your own appointment if you have to. Your Dr. should KNOW that IBS can really drag ya down....but he won't know it has done this to you until you TELL him. Give yourself a break and hang in there!!!!!!Let us know how it goes ok???Deb------------------Keep moving forward...even if you must crawl.

 

[Guest]

ok. i think today i'm a little bit better, not so depressed, and i'll be going to school tomorrow. i think i will try getting some sort of antidepressants, but that will take some work because my brother had bipolar manic-depression and quite a few of the anti dep's they put him on put him into a coma (it was really scary). so we'll see about that.as for specifially what i have, you guys were calling it D or C, which i assume is diharea and constipation - for me, when i have an ibs "episode" it's D. sometimes, but rarely, i get C, but i think that's normal for just about everyone.as for triggers, you name it, it hurts me. white bread. cheese (which i love). spicy stuff. fatty stuff. oily stuff. i'm going to go on an apple sauce diet for the next little while to calm my system down (it likes apple sauce, because it's like predigested food

).thanks for advice. i'm still interested in that hypnotherapy stuff.i don't think i will ever be comfortable being "icky" anyplace else than home however. i don't like dealing with stuff like that other places than home, and especially if other people are around. that must be purely psychological.------------------l33t haxor.[This message has been edited by djtalon (edited 12-05-2000).]

 

[GI Jane]

I know the horrors have having to deal with school and IBS. I am mainly D type, and have great success with calcium. So have lots of other people on this board!! Check out the numerous threads and try it. There's nothing to lose and potentially a huge gain.Also, in terms of cutting out food, (there are also numerous threads on this) I would suggest the following..high fat foods (I used to love fast food, can't touch it anymore) dairy products, and especially caffeine. While I can still have chocolate, half a glass of Coke or Pepsi can send me running to the can. But, check out the other threads...You're definitely not alone. I used to feel very alone, like no one really understood the physical pain and the emotional pain of IBS. This BB is a godsend though, and it's helping me alot!!Good luck!! Don't give up!!!!

 

[RitaLucy]

dj,I really do feel for you. I began with severe IBS symptoms when I was 17. It was very difficult for me because all my friends were able to live what I called " the normal life" and I couldn't keep up with them. I am talking about the pizza's etc. and later the alcohol. I felt cheated out of a normal life. I would lose weeks due to my IBS symptoms and be home sick. But things do get better and you realize taht it is a good thing to take care of yourself and feel good. I guess I was fortunate to meet people at that time who had much more chronic conditions than myself and it made my problems not feel so horrible.The only advice I would give you is to 1.) Do not be so hard on yourself and when you don't feel good remember that you will feel better and focus on feeling better instead of feeling so badly -- know that it will pass. 2.) Have your parents take you to a good GI doctor and maybe have some tests run -- perhaps the depression is an outcome of not feeling well and feeling isolated because of the IBS and maybe when the IBS gets to feeling a bit better a lot of the depression will go away naturally.3.) Never give up

 

[bunged up]

Take the first difficult step of getting to see a specialist. This can perhaps offer you an answer, or at least point you in the right direction where you can find help you need. Talk openly to those closest to you, and tell them how you are feeling. You can lean on them, until you feel stronger and start to take the small steps as you begin the road to health and what you need to do to cope with this disorder. You can lean on people here, too. Someone will always listen, and offer unconditional support and acceptance. Realize that the road ahead of you might be long and difficult, but you will make it..Many here have faced what you are feeling right now. and have survived and are living happy and productive lives. And when you HAVE made it, you will be extremely proud of yourself, for overcoming adversity is one of lives greatest achievements.