[Guest]

well i came home yesterday and got ready for my doctors appointment...assuming my mother was going to come with me i called her cell cause she wasnt home. well my mom apparently wasnt coming with me and she told me to go on the internet to find directions. well i know you dont all know me personally but my mom always goes to my doc appointments and i am horrble with directions. she got home before i had to leave and i was mad. i thought she would support me and help me out with all this. well i gave her a cold shoulder and she yelled at me asking why i was so short with her. i cant believe she didnt know the answer to that one. well them i went to look for my insurance card. and apparently my mom misplaced it and said i must have lost it. but i know i gave it to her. so i called the doc and told them and asked if i should still come. they said yes. so i went of looking for it and of course i got lost. finnaly i found my way back home and went to a friends house. i was crying she me and her went out looking for it but by then i was 30 min late. well i didnt end up finding it so i didnt go. i am so upset. i have been waiting for this appointment for so long. i just want someone to help me. i went home and my mom didnt even ask me about the appointment. she still doesnt know i didnt make it there. she just seems to not even care. this really upsets me. this isnt the first time either. one day i had a panic attack and i called for her but she just yelled at me and told me to stop. things seem to just keep piling up on me. i am transferring colleges this year and im going into an art field so i need a portfolio but i dont have any work to show...my coach refusing to give me the 100 dollars i gave her for a trip that i decided not to go on...i need to get my car inspected and get an oil change but i dont have enough money...things just keep going and going...not to mention worry about ibs 24/7. sorry im blabbing i just thought it would be good to vent. if youve kept reading for this long...thanks a lot. im sure ill get through it somehow ...ive made it this far havent i!!

 

[NewForMe]

I read your whole post and feel for ya. I would call and reschedule. Your mom might be trying to get you to become more independent, but going about it the wrong way. I have a friend that is afraid to drive anywhere she is not familiar with, if she gets lost she just pulls off to the side of the road and cries. I told her to start going to www.mapquest.com and getting driving directions before she goes anywhere and it has helped some. I am the type of person that can get lost and it doesn't bother me. If I have somewhere that I have to be at a certain time I do a trail run the night before so I can get lost then and find my way when I need to be there.

 

[moms777]

Hi Dreams, (I seem to be having trouble posting, please bear with me)! I just wanted to say welcome to the board. You will find alot of support here. Can I just say that your mom might have alot of things on her mind right now, that can be why she is not giving her full support. You said she didn't know why you were mad at her, right? Give her the benefit of the doubt this time, Dreams, it sounds like she has always been there for you in the past, right? I hope things get better for you!

Good luck!

 

[NancyCat]

I'm very sorry that this happened to you. Your Mom should really be (probably is though perhaps she has some problems of her own that you aren't aware of) there to support you, sorry if it doesn't seem like she is right now. Did you call the doctors from your friends and let them know that you were lost? I work for a doctor and beleive me it happens all the time. Give them a call and explain that you got lost and are sorry you weren't able to call and tell them you would like to reschedule. (We get NO SHOWS all the time and these patients are able to reschedule. Perhaps they can send you directions to their office (ours are on the back of the appointment cards)and maybe you can even do a practice run before you actually need to go. Thats what I do if I have to go some where new so when I HAVE to be there I won't be all freaked. I'm the type of person who has to get to a DR's apt early so I can get my nerve up to actually go in, except where I work because I feel safe there. Hope this helps and do keep us posted on how you are doing.

------------------Nancy