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Hi Well its tough trying to take care of your family and deal with IBS and work. I have 2 young children and a husband and I work a fulltime job. My IBS has been so bad lately and Ive tried lots of medicine and it seems to help a little but its like Im obsessed with it Im scared of t he pain and I think about it all the time. My family doesnt understand how much pain Im in at times. They expect dinner and the laundry done and I just cant move sometimes to do it. My husband gets mad at me because Im not as sexual as I was before. Im so depressed anymore and I dont know what to do I dont want my kids to see there mom depressed I try not but sometimes I just start to cry and I cant stop. I just want to be normal and be able to go to the bathroom normally thats not to much to ask. Just one day I wish I could go without pain. Thanks so much for your support you guys really have helped.
 

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Have you taken any antidepressants? If not I'd suggest you talk to your doctor. I'm currently on Effexor XR 75mgs for 5 months now and it has played an important role in getting me out of my depression. My IBS D is now under control. I also take Caltrate + for the D,Aloe vera to control the irritation resulting from my flare-ups and beano & phayzme for the gas. I also stay away from foods that can trigger my flare-ups. You have to keep experimenting until you find the right combination that works best for you.
 
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I'm sorry you are feeling so miserable right now, Miserable. The holidays tend to bring on depression for a lot of people and your circumstances probably don't help much either. I wish I could go and tell your husband to lighten up on you. He can cook and do laundry, with some verbal coaching from you perhaps. Also, he should be more understanding if you are not in the mood to be intimate with him. Again, I'm sorry your husband isn't helping your situation much.We are always here with open ears, or is that eyes?, so please use us as a sounding board for your feelings.Take care.Christine
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I agree with Chriseese; if you're working a fulltime job and not feeling well, why is it YOUR sole responsibility to have dinner on the table or the laundry done? I was fortunate in that my husband knew I had IBS when he married me, and I made it clear from the beginning that my ability to work full time and/or be the perfect homemaker just wasn't there. He decided he wanted me anyway! He's not at all good at anything domestic, but is always willing to bring home a takeout meal or order a pizza. He's also totally oblivious to whether the house is clean or dirty. You didn't say how long you've had IBS. It often takes time for spouses to adjust, especially if they're used to you taking on too much responsibility--they get spoiled! There's a really good "brochure" floating around on how to explain IBS to someone who doesn't have it. Does anyone else on the BB know where to access it?
 

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Big (((HUGS))) to you Miserable. I know how you feel. I have a 19 month old son, and a husband to take care of. I can't imagine having a full time job on top of that with IBS. I've been very lucky to be able to stay home with this. Even though my husband understands my problem and will make dinner when I'm not well, or will take care of our son when I'm in pain I still feel bad about it. I want to do it all for them, like I should be able to. I think you need to sit down with your husband and have a good long talk with him. Espeically since you also work, he needs to healp out with the laundry and cooking, and even taking care of the kids. Even if you didn't have IBS he should be helping with those things. Before my IBS I used to do it all with ease, since I didn't work. But let me tell you if I had been working I would have been dead on my feet to come home make a meal, clean everything, take care of TWO kids! I don't think you need any meds with this one, I think you really need some help from your hubby. Let us know how it goes. Jennifer
 
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Miserable,I agree with what the rest say. You really do need to sit down and talk to your husband. He probably doesn't understand your side of it. Don't suffer silently. If he doesn't want to cooperate you may need a third person to intervene, Like a pastor or councler.My husband was controlling and for years I just put up with it. I was angry all the time, but kept it inside. I never let him know but I was a screeming demon when I was home alone. I really think that is why my Gas problem is as bad as it is. The Bottled up hate fermented inside me. Still does, I am never relaxed...
God Bless, Joyce ------------------ Don't make ME come down there!!. GOD
 
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