Big (((HUGS))) to you Miserable. I know how you feel. I have a 19 month old son, and a husband to take care of. I can't imagine having a full time job on top of that with IBS. I've been very lucky to be able to stay home with this. Even though my husband understands my problem and will make dinner when I'm not well, or will take care of our son when I'm in pain I still feel bad about it. I want to do it all for them, like I should be able to. I think you need to sit down with your husband and have a good long talk with him. Espeically since you also work, he needs to healp out with the laundry and cooking, and even taking care of the kids. Even if you didn't have IBS he should be helping with those things. Before my IBS I used to do it all with ease, since I didn't work. But let me tell you if I had been working I would have been dead on my feet to come home make a meal, clean everything, take care of TWO kids! I don't think you need any meds with this one, I think you really need some help from your hubby. Let us know how it goes. Jennifer