I agree with Chriseese; if you're working a fulltime job and not feeling well, why is it YOUR sole responsibility to have dinner on the table or the laundry done? I was fortunate in that my husband knew I had IBS when he married me, and I made it clear from the beginning that my ability to work full time and/or be the perfect homemaker just wasn't there. He decided he wanted me anyway! He's not at all good at anything domestic, but is always willing to bring home a takeout meal or order a pizza. He's also totally oblivious to whether the house is clean or dirty. You didn't say how long you've had IBS. It often takes time for spouses to adjust, especially if they're used to you taking on too much responsibility--they get spoiled! There's a really good "brochure" floating around on how to explain IBS to someone who doesn't have it. Does anyone else on the BB know where to access it?