I'm new to this forum, but I'm glad I stumbled upon it. I need advice on how to talk to my future husband about his IBS. A little background: We're getting married in a few weeks and have been living together for over a year. He was only recently diagnosed with IBS but has been living with the symptoms almost his whole life. We've both been adjusting and living with it the best we can, but we've never really talked about it until recently, and it didn't go well. We just don't seem to be on the same page. It's almost like he's in denial about it. After a particularly bad attack that sent him to the doctor, I tried talking to him. I told him that because his symptoms are severe enough that they interfere with his daily life, I think it's time he sought treatment and started changing his diet. His doctor advised him to do the same. While he's willing to take meds to treat his IBS, he refuses to change his diet. He continues to eat foods he knows causes him to have IBS attacks. And he doesn't agree with me that this has affected both our lives. (I completely disagree; IBS has impacted our sex life, caused him to miss work, interrupted plans and social outings, drains him of energy, and has impacted his overall health and happiness.) I know he never chose to have a chronic illness. I know this is embarassing for him. I know that no matter how much he tries to manage this, he will probably always have symptoms. And I have no problem upholding my promise to love and care for him in sickness and in health. I just find it frustrating that he won't even acknowledge there's a problem or make more of an effort to make the changes his doctor recommends. I want to be a supportive partner and to help him live as healthy, full, and pain-free a life as he can. Please tell me how I can talk to him about this. And if you feel that my attitude about this is all wrong, please by all means feel free to adjust it. But I do have to ask that you please be nice. I already feel terrible and selfish for having these feelings, and I have no one else to talk to about this.