Tina, I feel that the tapes will only help you but they are gradual and not an instant way to shut off anxiety such as taking a tranquilizer. My life experience teaches me that some of us overstress our systems with worry or apprehension over a supposed situation that is out of our control. Think about it this way, your father is very important to you. You will worry a lot if all is not right with him. When your mind cannot resolve a problem with him you don't just say to yourself to let go and not worry because you can't do otherwise. When I lost my mother and my father became sick and didn't care about life, I worried myself into a frenzy also about a solution to the problems. A very good Psychologist finally got through to my mind and I now realize that I put everything in God's hands. I do what I can but worrying solves nothing and harms my health. If you are all messed up with panic and worry you are unable to help anyone including yourself. I don't have a step by step ironclad method to give you to ease up on yourself because I also tried meds, CBT, biofeed,hypno, etc. I do know that the meds caused a lot of problems and really was a waste for me. Keep up the hypno. tapes, exercise and do anything to put your mind on other things such as hobbies, work on a project, read something good or watch a good movie. Get your mind in positive territory whatever it takes. In most cases you cannot change what happens and you have to deal with the outcome even when you don't like it. Good luck, Norb