Jody, sound like we have a similar problem. I also hate barium, it makes you fee like you are carrying around bricks. I have never thought about a colostomy bag, to me, it would be the worst thing that could happen. I'm 29 and single, and don't think that potential dates would find it very appealing!I think you should try the biofeedback, it mght work. I'm having a rough time finding someone who does it in my area though. Also, I have to say that the miralax has helped a ton because it makes everything soft and able to come out. Have you tried it? In the beginning, I needed 3 doses a day. I used to have to do enemas constantly and go for colonic irrigations. I haven't needed any o this since the miralax.I'm sorry you are worse since the surgery. Maybe our problem just isn't in our intestines at all, maybe it is just in the pelvic floor??My natropath tells me that i am just "anal retentive" literally. I tell you this...when i am relaxed and on vacation, I do not have hese problems. It's odd. What is your next step? I guess mine is to go for the defcocograpy.Write back.