I didn't quit my job mainly because of IBS.. I could deal with it.. office job, etc.. but, after a management change the stress did make things terrible, which doesn't help IBS.Luckily I was already working on my own and focused my energies that way and have been very succesfully self-employed for a few years now.I still make the occasional business trip and speak in front of groups (I'm a tech geek), but for me the worst part is getting to that point.. once I am where I need to be, or speaking in front of a group, I can forget about my IBS for the most part.It's also taken years of research, experimenting and the biggest thing, getting rid of trigger foods and doing the fiber therapy (Metamucil capsules work best for me) and I feel great.While at work it was hard to explain why ordering pizza or having cake and ice cream or "goodie day" didn't get me exicited... My new boss thought it was because I didn't want to be part of the group. All of my previous bosses understood, but this one didn't like me anyhow, so I just left.Finally, after talking with my Gastro specialist and going throught the colonoscopy and all that good stuff, I have NO problem telling people what I can and can't eat, and asking about what will be served or if a restaurant can specially prepare a meal (for example, when I get a lobster tail I specifically ask they cook it with olive oil instead of butter). Most restaurants have no problem with it, and now when I go they know if I order something they say "I think that has dairy.. did you want me to check?" My wife has seen a HUGE improvement in me as well, and is actually understanding it does help. I love hearing her tell her folks that I am doing a LOT better... It makes me feel better that she can see the change in me... even if she still doesn't understand why I like to sip 2-3 beers every night... (it works! So I do it!)As an example, our neihbors have "soup night" where they make a lot of soup and chili and have friends over. This year I told my wife I don't want to go, since I can't eat anything they make (I could eat the chili, a little, but it's terrible chili.. LOL!) She loves soup, but understood and told them we wouldn't be coming.We have a set of friends that also are "super healthy" and eat lots of veggies, lean meats, and do pilates every day... Last time we ate with them they grilled a hole bunch of veggies and chicken breast. I ate everything and paid dearly the next day. I knew I should have just eaten a couple chicken breasts and the bread (I brought ciabatta bread and made that olive oil/bal. vinegar dip that they have at italian restaurants... mMM!!! and it doesn't bother me at all!Since then we have gone out with them and I no longer eat salad at restaurants, and instead get an appetizer (buffalo wings, calamari, or just eat the bread). I then most of the time order steak and french fries and have 3 or so beers. That for me is the perfect meal. I know they look at me like "that's so unhealthy" as the munch on their rabbit food, but it makes me feel good so I will continue to do it!It took me a long time to get where I am... if something works, I stick to it!
Steak, hamburgers, fries, beer and green olives!I trust in time you'll find that magical combination and trigger foods as well... Don't fret, and talk to your dr... keep notes on how you feel (you won't remember when you go in!) and tell them everything, even with your mood, state of mind, etc...