I know exactly what you mean. My boyfriend and me have tried to address this issue and we seem to go through periods where we both make a real effort. The thing is I often don't feel like it and in turn he then stops trying to initiate it, which then makes me feel unattractive. It's a problem, but as long as your husband (congrats by the way) is understanding it should all be ok.Are you on any medication at the moment? The reason I ask is becuase I went on prozac for IBS which had a dramatic affect on my sex drive. I was also very unaffectionate and quite cold towards my boyfriend. We talked about it and decided that it was better without the prozac, eventhough it helped with the other IBS symptoms.