I'm just wondering how everyone else meets new people and finds new friends.I have always found it difficult to find new friends, even before I came down with FBO, but I was comfortable enough then to go out and meet new people. I'd go to Japanese classes and the expat bars here. I've always been quiet, I've never been terribly articulate or exciting. Some have said I have massive walls that keeps everyone out. My family and the friends I've got in Canada hypothosize that since I was neglected and abandoned before I turned one, and that the next five years consisted of my being put into foster homes where foster parents were told not to get close to the children might have something to do with my 'walls'. In fact, I couldn't talk before the age of five. It has been shown in a series of tragic events (the three child policy in Romania) that children who don't bond in the first three years of their lives never really learn how to bond, and perhaps that's my case to some extent, although I've got a couple good friends in Canada.I live in Japan now. I had two friends, but they moved back to their respective home countries, and in the midst of a divorce, I came down with FBO.I have been living my life mostly in solitude. I tried going out to the expat bars a couple times, but the negative reactions kind of drove me back home in short order, but I realize that solitude is no way to live, unless you're like a Buddhist monk that's meditating everyday and can stay content in complete solitude.So how does everyone else meet new people here? How do they make friends?