I have had IBS since I was four or five years old. it was worse during high school simply because of the embarasment of having to ask to use the restroom in front of all the other students day in and day out. Things got better after high school, but since I started dating my current girlfriend things have regressed. She is a great fun-loving person who loves to hike and kayak and do things on a whim. As you all well know, we are not inherantly sponataneous people. She thinks that my bouts of IBS are my subconscious sabotaging her plans and tends to take it personally. She says things like "This has to stop." And if I have a bout and feel like just going to bed she says I'm "lame". I love her but she's just making my condition worse. I geel like I can't be sick around her, which causes the cramping and nervousness to get even worse. Any advice?