Just some thoughts I had, as I've had to tell 2 people "No" lately when invited to go somewhere.There is a wedding planned this weekend, and I'm in it, so I'm saving up energy. The bride asked me to go out with the entire wedding party before the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner. I had to say no. While I felt bad for having to say no, saying yes was not an option. And I could honestly apologize, and say "I'm sorry I know you'll be disappointed." I hate to disappoint her, but I'm just saying no, and then allowing her to feel her feelings of disappointment. Nothing wrong with that, she has every right to be disappointed. Anyway that was my random thought. Just say no, and allow them to be disappointed. They have a right to their feelings, and you have a right to your "no". There are just some things we can't do, and yeah, it's ok to think that sucks.