I realized that I come to this forum to try and help people, since my IBS is pretty much a slam dunk with medications, but that I have focused primarily on our friend Volatile. He seemed to need so much help, while at the same time offering up so many opportunities for a bit of humor. Or, as one person said about a friend "the man is smoother than a bowling ball, and the jokes just roll right off him".I want Volatile to get well, but know that if he does go to a therapist, I will miss the dear fellow and his stomach, that is evidently bloated to the size of a small killer whale. Gay Guys in his dorm don't play spin the bottle, they just spin Volatile on his tummy!Volatile has brought out the wonderful giving of this forum. People truly try to help each other if they can. THere is something special about Volatile that has brought out a lot of responses, perhaps because his problem isn't horrifying (I really have no answer to someone who is defecating blood, worms, and mucus that bites!). Good luck to you Volatile. Thanks for being a rallying point for people. I suspect you did a lot of good by being here, since there are probably a lot of lurkers who learned a great deal from all the suggestions given to you. I hope everyone contemplates that thought. Say "Hey" to your new therapist from me. If you actually have the new Aspergum disease, I hope you get resolution. Now I must cough myself to sleep. The common cold is one of those maladies that must simply be lived through, sort of like IBS in a sense.
Volatile, I am going to miss you!
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·I don't think so Brett - I think Health is using a wee touch of Irene the Ironic sence of humour??? Am I right??Sue LOL
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Perhaps I was too sutble.Volatile came to this forum for answers, often to questions that only he could answer for himself, e.g., are 3 spoons of Benefiber OK or should I use 5 spoonfuls? I get gas when I eat a bagel, so what do I do? (Stand on your head and sqwauck like a chicken?). A lot of truly caring people (that includes me, even though I inject humor) have given a lot of advice.But to me it seems that the veterans have told Volatile over and over that he should see a therapist, JUST AS HIS PERSONAL DOCTOR TOLD HIM TO DO. Volatile admits that a ton of bricks has to fall on his head before he stops being stubborn and does what he is told. So this thread was to support Volatile in taking that risky and scary step of finding another professional human being who can deal with his IBS bloating complaints and his acknowledged obsession with them. A recent post was almost scary in the ways Volatile tied his entire musculature system into whether his tummy was bloated or not, and there is really not much of a connection. It showed a real fetish quality to all this. Now Volatile thinks he has a handle on his problem, in something called Asperger (?) disorder. Yet, he has previously revealed that he takes meds that are usually only given to manic-depressives. The bottomline is that certainly Vol will continue to be here, but his MAIN SUPPORT FOR ACHIEVING HEALTH AND HAPPINESS CANNOT BE HERE! He needs to find a compassionate professional he can work with on cognitive therapy and the actual physical problems, to get a firm diagnosis of whether he is bi-polar or has this other disorder. This thread was acknowledging that if he does this for his own good, I will miss him because I think more of his questions will go to that person rather than the peanut gallery here. I was not trying to be a smart ass. Now if Vol does NOT want to take this to the next step and see a therapist, but continue to do his onsey twosey question sets here, e.g., "I ate a tomato tonight, and now I am bloated. What should I do? Should I take more Acacia powder or have a colonic, or go to Lourdes?" Well, if that is what he wants to do, that is fine. It ain't my tummy that is the size of Grand Central Station and occupying every moment of my thoughts. In my opinion, such a person needs more than happy face icons and a few words of support. They need a trained doctor in cognitive therapy and mind/body interplay.
The other bottom line (can you have 2 bottom lines?) is that I am probably leaving, since I don't think I am doing anything positive here as originally hoped for. I wanted to give concrete information from my own experience, and to "lighten people up" about a very heavy serious topic. But at times that attitude can come off as being non-caring or shallow.I am a bonafid church chaplain, although I obviously don't fit any stereotypes of the white collar cleric who walks quietly and always seems to have his mind in the clouds with God, or trying to figure out the details of the next "bring and sell" potluck at the church! I have about 50 congregants assigned to me for pastoral care, and I talk with them routinely to gauge their needs, and pass them up the line if they are suffering greatly from psychiatric or other problems beyond my expertise. If Vol was my congregant, I would pray with him for health and understanding, but I would also refer him to social services for some therapy. I already include him in my prayer list, for what that is worth to anyone else here. Yes, Unity Christian Church does not discriminate against gay men, but ordains them and Lesbians, allowing us to serve. This is my true life long calling. Yet perhaps this is not the place. Yet I think you are all chaplains, chaplains for IBS, people who care and administer to those who are in need and ask for support and answers. You never know when one little post you create might just change someone's entire attitude.
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Well said - and God bless you as you help others to heal.
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·I don't think so in my case Healthwise (re your comment about "entire attitude") unless it was about loud scouse women, or farming alpacas.No seriously, power to you, why on earth people of any sexual orientation can't serve god, if they have a calling is totally beyond me. Sadly, there are some people who pupport (is that how its spelt - you get my drift) to be christian who also appear to be incredibly bigotted, racist etc etc - I do not attempt to claim I'm a christian but do hope I'm bringing my kids up to be decent tolerant folk.I'm sure the church (in its broadest sence) could do with many, many more people with your energy and commitment.Have a good w/e.Off to do "parent type" things now ie become an endless taxi service for the kids.Sue
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·C'mon Jools you ruffle away - this board seems very quiet today and where is the lovely Accident Girl? Don't do a disappearing act on us will you?Sue
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Thanks for your help, I am working, the begining, on getting that kind of help.You must understand this, my friends have supported me, and that has me on my feet to get it.I got to ask though, I read something about pasta or starchy food causing constipation and bloating, has anybody else experienced this?If this is true, what can I substitute, I mean, if I can eat strachy food, how will I get my carbs or be full?
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