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I know it's a long time coming. I've been married to my husband for twenty years. We have two wonderful children, 17 and 19 yrs. old. We lived together for a year before we got married. We decided early on that I would stay at home with the children. This was what I really wanted, my mother wasn't able to be with her children and growing up with that I wanted something different for my kids. We agreed that me being at home was more than equal pay for him being at work,and everything would be the same. The extra money would be split, 50/50. So we decided to have an allowance, same amount every two weeks. It worked fine and still does to a point. But I spend all my money on the house or the kids. He spends all his money on hunting, hunting and more hunting. And when he runs out of money he just puts it on credit cards. And it's not just hunting, it depends on the season he finds something new to go over board on. But not his family, I feel like I have to make up for his dis-interest. He doesn't know his own children. And of course I can't talk to him about this, he just gets mad. Very Mad!!This man I love and spent my life with, I can't believe I put up with him not spending time with his children, (not so much children anymore).I always try to find the good in him. But things always come back, like the time I had a miscarriage and he made me walk through the parking lot bleeding. When my mother was dying, he was so upset that I wanted to go back to her house he left me at the driveway and he wouldn't even come in. Enough said, I'm sad!!!!Jackie
 

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RitaLucy, You're right he is the one missing out on so much, just like your dad. That's the saddest part of all he doesn't even know what he is missing. My children, Tonya and Jeremy, are the greatest. I'm so proud of them, they are truly the joy of my life. And as teenagers I'm getting to know them in a different way. We have so much fun together, joking and cutting up, as my husband looks at us like we are talking in code. I want him to be a part of this, but he can't stop thinking about his next whatever. It would make me so happy if he just spend time with Tonya and Jeremy. Tonya stated to me several times, Dad doesn't even know who I am. She said, I think he'll be a better grandfather than a father, when men aren't very good fathers they try to make it up as grandfathers. That hurts, I want her to feel so loved by her father. What can you do to change it? Jackie
 
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