I was wondering which came first for me.the more I thought about it the more I recognized the fear of soiling myself makes me so panicky that I could drive myself crazy, literally. I have been reading the threads and I see a common thread: we are so afraid of ******* on ourselves that we have got to take drugs to calm our nerves. Why don,t we work on the fact that accidents happen all of the time and we will have them!I used to not go anywhere because I did not want to use a public restroom or a friend's for that matter because I would have to BM. that itself started that fear that we are all familiar with. then a friend told me : the bathroom IS for *******! that is so true.then I soiled myself once and that was it for me. I thought I was going crazy because the anxiety set in big time. I would not even walk down my street! Now that I am doing just okay... I push myself all of the time. I figured that if I can control the explosive D, I can make it to a restroom and I usually do. Lately the anxiety has lessened because if I soil myself, I just go home! I used to stay home in fear but now I go out and worry later. Will we die?! NO! Do we have a chronically fatal disease?! NO! my friend does. She keeps doing what she always did! Live for now. that is what I will do. Today I go out. Tomorrow I go out and if I ###### on myself....this will not kill me! To think this way helps me and I hope that it will help you. Life is too short to worry about soiling yourselves. I did and did not die. I can even laugh about it now. Note: I do drive by myself and do things by myself but I do go out to MEET with friends. If I feel sick, I just get in my car and leave. If I have an accident in the car...SO What. I am going home anyway!Happy Holidays to you all!