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I was wondering which came first for me.the more I thought about it the more I recognized the fear of soiling myself makes me so panicky that I could drive myself crazy, literally. I have been reading the threads and I see a common thread: we are so afraid of ******* on ourselves that we have got to take drugs to calm our nerves. Why don,t we work on the fact that accidents happen all of the time and we will have them!I used to not go anywhere because I did not want to use a public restroom or a friend's for that matter because I would have to BM. that itself started that fear that we are all familiar with. then a friend told me : the bathroom IS for *******! that is so true.then I soiled myself once and that was it for me. I thought I was going crazy because the anxiety set in big time. I would not even walk down my street! Now that I am doing just okay... I push myself all of the time. I figured that if I can control the explosive D, I can make it to a restroom and I usually do. Lately the anxiety has lessened because if I soil myself, I just go home! I used to stay home in fear but now I go out and worry later. Will we die?! NO! Do we have a chronically fatal disease?! NO! my friend does. She keeps doing what she always did! Live for now. that is what I will do. Today I go out. Tomorrow I go out and if I ###### on myself....this will not kill me! To think this way helps me and I hope that it will help you. Life is too short to worry about soiling yourselves. I did and did not die. I can even laugh about it now. Note: I do drive by myself and do things by myself but I do go out to MEET with friends. If I feel sick, I just get in my car and leave. If I have an accident in the car...SO What. I am going home anyway!Happy Holidays to you all!
 

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Many Years ago , when I was still able to work , I did have an accident at work.Bad case of "D". I had to walk to the bathroom with it running down my pant legs.All I could do was get my underware off and use towles to wipe up. called my husband and asked if he'd bring me a change of clothes.My boss was Not understanding that I left the work floor due to an accident. I got fired !I hated that job anyhow so it was no loss to me.
 
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Glenda!I can relate! only I was at a dinner party and there was no way out because I did not drive!If there is a boss that insensitive!!!!!!! well I would not mmiss that job either!I am a new mother and can not afford to stay in so that is why if I have accidents so what baby got to eat right!!!!!
 

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Maybe that's really the core of te whole thing. We are dying of embarrassment. I know the feeling and it steals your life away. I need to work on cooling it like you Luli and Glenda. I've thought of kind of protecting against a mishap at times with a panty liner?? It may not catch everything but it would be some kind of protection.Sassy
 

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Yep, I think you hit the nail on the head right there!! I'm constantly worried about having an accident, and even more so having the pain in public! I made a deal with my mother when we went to visit her for Thanksgiving. She told me to eat whatever I wanted, and go out and go places whenever I wanted. She said if I had an accident then thats ok she'd get me home and I'd clean up. That was the BEST advice I ever heard. Knowing that the people around me didn't care if I had an accident and was understanding took SO much of the stress of anxiety off of me and I was FINE the whole trip.So now the last 3 weeks I've been trying to control my thoughts, and not worry either way what happens. It has made a huge difference. I'm not saying that it's all in our head, obviously it's not. But I really think for me anyway that MOST of it is. I bring on most of it with my constant stressing and worrying about it. I think if we can master our own brains we'd be all feeling alot better!Jennifer
 
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luli,My compliments - very well put. In fact, I often think the same things especially when I'm driving home - SO WHAT, as you say, I'm heading home anyway.It really comes down to that realization that yes, it may be embarrasing and bothersome (was for me that one time I had an accident), but it's certainly possible to deal with and get on down the road with living as normal as possible.I do have one interesting observation on this, though. My wife and I are now "semi-retired" close to a gambling town (Laughlin, NV), so we usually visit the casinos (and our money) about once a week or so. Hang out and mostly play the machines. Here's my observation: Sometimes, when I'm winning, I accumulate credits on the machine that can be a coupla' hundred dollars. Although it hasn't happened yet (almost did one time), my great fear is that I'll have an episode and have to make a decision between soiling my trousers on the spot, or leaving my money in the machine and running to the bathroom. Now, I usually sit at a machine close to where my wife is, and if I'm not, she very kindly comes to check on me periodically. If it ever happens that I'm forced to make the decision, you will probably read about the man that ###### his pants rather than give up his jackpot, or the guy that ran to a toilet in a casino carrying several heavy buckets of coins. What would you do???Sassy,I used to put on these big bulky diapers (although they quickly compressed and fit my form under my trousers without showing) when I traveled a lot, but now I haven't used one for months. It's just a hassle and bother that isn't worth it unless I know I'm going to be far from any toilet for hours (like traveling in a rental car to an unknown destination in the boonies).Again, luli, good post...BJ
 
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This is all so true. I take Bentyl for the D and this has actually worked quite well. I have only had D about 3 times in the past 2 months. The problem is a still worry about it all the time...even though it doesn't happen nearly as much as it used to. I am constantly trying to talk my self out of worrying...but it is so hard once the fear sets in. It is so true though that it won't kill any of us if we have to run to the bathroom somewhere..or don't make it in time. Now if those of us with anxiety could only find a way to stop the worrying!
 
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I am going to use this whole weekend to think up things that take the worry out. Comedy has helped me and I will post on Monday whatever I come up with. I really was a homebound 27 year old when this hit me and now I want to live life!will post on Monday have a Happy weekend!
 

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I have only had this for about four months and I discovered this board when I had an accident at work. After about a month of constant worry when I was teaching (I teach computer classes to adults) I went into the boss and told him that I was sick of teaching and it was ruining my health so they created a position in house for me so I would not have to travel anymore. I stopped worrying and the D stopped. I now suffer from C more. I think I actually worried myself into having attacks. It was kind of hard to explain to the work folks, but they knew I wasn't the same after I had my gallbladder out. I am just glad that they did something for me, otherwise I would have quit.
 
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