Sad Liza, I know how you feel regarding your daughter. My son was diagnosed with IBS 15 yrs ago when he was in junior high. I have IBS, so I knew that is what he had. I told him, "When you have to go to the bathroom, you JUST GO! Deal with the teacher later." One day he had an attack and requested to go to the bathroom. The teacher, in her infinite wisdom, said no. He got up and left anyway. (His only other choice was to crap his pants). When he returned, the teacher sent him to the principal with a detention slip. When the principal called me, I was completely incensed!! I went in to the office and explained the situation to the principal and he was very understanding. My son was mortified that I told him about his condition, but I said it is nothing to be embarrassed about. The stupid teacher should be embarrassed. My son was a great student, always in accelerated classes, so there was no reason for the teacher to think he was trying to get out of class. I hope I educated that school, even just a little. I wish you the best in your school with your daughter.