Would Planning a Wedding do this to Me?

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Ashwoman

Discussion Starter · Jun 19, 2000

Honestly, this is my first visit to this board, but already, I can empathize with a bunch of the posts I've read.For over a year, I've been engaged and will be married later this summer. Things have been going well, but since late April, I haven't felt "normal." I feel that I have things with the wedding pretty much under control, but maybe I have this and other anxieties that are causing all of this? My diet hasn't changed drastically recently, so I've ruled that out, but my D attacks have become more frequent, and now I'm stresed that I won't even make it through the honeymoon without feeling that I need to shut myself in a bathroom for a while at the drop of a pin. I have 2 1/2 months before the big day, so does anyone have any words of advice on maybe behavioral or lifestyle changes I should make in order to maximize my comfort level? Unfortunately, my spare time feels rather limited lately. I have seen a medical dr. about this, and I'm feeling highly discouraged by all of it.Thanks![This message has been edited by Ashwoman (edited 06-18-2000).]

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Mannie

· #2 · Jun 19, 2000

Have you been to a doctor and received a diagnoses of IBS? If not, then a trip to the doctor would be recommended. D without any changes in diet or lifestyle could signify many things, including gallstones and a variety of other things.In my unprofessional opinion, stressful wedding plans could cause some D. I eloped!

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Ashwoman

Discussion Starter · #3 · Jun 19, 2000

Actually, I haven't received an official diagnosis from my dr. He knows that I've had irregular bowel movements for a while, but I haven't notice any improvement. I do have a prescription I've put off getting filled that starts with a Pa--- something (I can't read his writing).

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· #4 · Jun 19, 2000

Even happy things can bring on an attack.Getting married is stressful. I agree that a trip to dr's would be a good idea. But look into some kind of stress management, too.See Lnape's post about calcium. It is working really well for me.Best wishes to you on your wedding day.

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· #5 · Jun 19, 2000

It's probably anxiety. If you have a propensity towards a 'nervous stomach' as my Mom used to call it, stress will bring it on. And a wedding is stressful no matter how much control you have. I have IBS, and it might be OK for a while, and then I'm going to the theatre or a big party. The next day it hits. Why? Because in the theatre or at a special occasion, I'm touched by many different moods and stimulus, I don't usually have. Result: next day symptoms.See your doctor if you're worried. But, if you've never had it before, I bet it's common wedding jitters. And nerves (even if they're supressed) can turn your stomach into an egg-beater. Sure you want to get married?

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· #6 · Jun 19, 2000

I get D when I get stressed and I had 1 immodium the night before my wedding and I was fine for the next 2 days. Take it at the end of the day and it will settle your stomach while you are asleep and stop the nerves from attacking you while you are sleeping. I tried it recently for the second time (for a stressful event, not a marriage) and it worked fine again.Give it a go soon and see if it works for you.-ie. a trial runCheck with your doc that it is IBS and then I would try mikes Hypnosis tapes. Lots of info round here for them.Take care and good luck for the big day.[This message has been edited by Muse (edited 06-19-2000).]

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kbaum

· #7 · Jun 20, 2000

Although I've had symptoms off and on since the 80s, my IBS kicked into high gear when I planned my wedding a few years back. I thought I was handling things fine, but my body told me otherwise. Just imagine me in the bathroom the whole time at a surprise bridal shower my mom threw!

The wedding day I had no problems whatsoever and here's why:1) I ate only safe foods for the 4 days prior2) I ate very little the day of (just enough to keep me from passing out at the altar)3) This was "pre-meds" so I had every possible over-the-counter remedy with me that I had ever taken (matron of honor was responsible for assembling). I think I popped a few Immodium the night before and the morning of.4) I told everyone to back off, it's my wedding.5) The night before, I did every relaxing thing that had worked in the past, including a bubble bath and a massage.6) I eliminated the things about weddings that made me feel stressed (no reception line, for one thing)7) Sleep!Maybe some of these can work for you - but be sure to enjoy yourself during the whole process.(My honeymoon was another matter - I thought I was over the rough part so I slacked a bit on my diet - not a wise move!)Karen

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· #8 · Jun 20, 2000

My IBS was particularly bad during my wedding planning, but then again, it was not a very happy time...lots of family BS!!! Anyway, I had a major attack the morning of the wedding...while at the hairdressers...it took about 8 immodiums to make things right...mind you, I have NEVER had to take that many before. You might want to take a couple the night before to prevent an attack. I tried that this weekend...I was at the beach, eating seafood, being social and it really worked!!!!Good luck in your final stretch!

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Pekeluvr

· #9 · Jun 20, 2000

Hi Ash,The week before my wedding, I had totally watery D. Very scary-as usually with my IBS it isn't watery.I went to the Doctor and the second they found out I was getting married, it was dismissed as jitters. Man, that made me mad. I was convinced it was something else, as I wasn't all that anxious.Guess they were right though, because the day of the wedding it quit.Hang in there! I know it's scary-you'll make it just fine

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