Glenda, I feel for you! This can be so embarassing. It's not your fault so don't blame yourself. Play it safe and get those pull-ups.Stress plays a big part in this. Maybe try going out when you are relaxed?Hugs to you!

 

It happens. My husband who does not have IBS has a weak spinchter(Sp) muscle and bowel accidents are not uncommon for him. He wears depends and feels much better when we go out. He used the undergarments, but now he is using pull ups. It has made a big difference for both of us.

 

I guess I am just going to have to break down and go buy myself some pull up's.These accidents issue everytime I go out of the house is becomming a routine.One thing that would panic me is my Diarrhea smells sour. How do I hide the smell if I am in public ? I'd sure be waddling funny like a duck with a diaper full of poop.This is so embarrasing. I just wanna die.

 

Is it different if you eat before you go out or not? I have found with me that not eating before I go out lessens the chance of an IBS attack.

 

Eating makes no difference.No matter what I do , when I go out , I can count on having an accident.This is so shamefull to have to deal with.

 

I know Glenda. Believe me I have had my share of these most embarassing moments. One time I was in Kohls. I left my phone in my car. Here it came. No warning, no pain, nothing.It was summer so I had on shorts. I RAN to bathroom and died.I sat there crying, wondering what the heck was I going to do?It was all the way down in my shoes too. After about 15 minutes I heard the door open. I asked if she had a phone I could use. She said No, but I work here. I asked her to call my H to bring me up some clothes . She did and gave me tons of towels wet and dry. I stood there in the ladies bathroom giving myself a darn bath. Then after 15 minutes she came back in with my clothes. I got the heck out of there as fast as I could. I hate telling this story, BUT I want you to know you are NOT alone. I was only 42 when this happened. I was about 38 and I did this at Disney. SO I have done it a few times in my life too.Can you take imodium? I take lomotil. I know what you mean about the diaper thing. To darn young for them, BUT we have to do what we have to do sometimes. And it does not matter what I eat or don;t eat either. I can eat something on Monday and be fine, but eat it on Thursday and I get D. I quit the guessing gam eon food.Take care and remeber you are not aloneKat

 

It is no wonder that us IBS people find it hard to go out like everyone else. I had a friend who finally had a ileostomia for that very reason. She did well with her surgery, but what a drastic thing to have to do.

 

I thought I had some bad horror stories to tell , But >Being at Kohl's and having to ask for help from an employee , to call your husband to bring clothes , I haven't had that happen yet.I was at the mall in the food court , and I was running for the bathroom and I messed my pants.I did have to get my hubby to bring me clothes as I couldn't walk with stuff squishing out my pant legs.I remember another time out in my truck , I had a messy accident and the smell grossed my son out so bad he rode home in the back of the truck bed in the rain.No mater what I use Imodium or Lomotil , it just doesn't dry me up to eliminate these darn runs.I am really scared to leave the house , because I guarentee I will #### my pants. It happens every time.I need pull up's , but I am ashamed and embarrased to buy them at my age.If I sneeze or throw up I pee my pants. Why?This whole ordeal has gotten out of hand.

 

Hi Glenda, you're not alone. I pee my pants too. I had a hysterectomy and apparently there is not much there to hold the bladder up. Therefore I get unexpected urination.When I sneeze or throw up, I'm guarenteed to wet myself. I have to squeeze real hard first. When you throw up though, never mind squeezing, it doesn't work.

It is embarrasing to buy pull-ups but I don't think it's as embarrasing as pooping in public.Try them out, you have nothing to lose. Think of the freedom of mind, of being able to go where you want, without the stress of accidents.It's worth a try! Keep your chin up!

 

I wet myself all the time. Sneezing and throwing up really hit my bladder hard. I can go pee' , get up to walk away and pee' more and get my underware wet.I had a total hysterectomy in 1987 and never thought it could be due to the fact there isn't much left in there to hold the bladder up.But now that you mention it , that makes 100% sense.Now as for pull up's , I need them badly.If I mess my pull up's I still have to find a bathroom to clean up in.The horror that gets me is > What if I have my pull up's on and all of a sudden my diarrhea expolodes with a bang and a smell around a crowd of people ?The Dreadfull looks I have gotten is terrible.People hold their nose and glare at you.I am just at a loss what to do anymore.Are pull up's the answer ?This is so much to deal with.

 

Glenda, please see your doctor about your bladder problems. My doctor has been proposing different options that may help. One of them is a surgery to tighten the muscles. (something like that) For some people, it resolves the problem completely, some other people re-experience the problem after a few years. There are also other treatment options. Please look into them. Quality of life is important!!!p.s. You can carry purse size baby wipes so that if you do have to clean up after a mess, it will be easier.People can be mean.... but then again, they don't know what it's like. Never mind what they do, it is not your fault!!! It is important that you be comfortable and secure in your daily life, so it pull-ups can help..... go for it.I'm sending good thoughts your way, with a whole bunch of hugs. XOXOXOXO

 

How much do they cost ?How many per package ?I am going to have to get me some soon .One thing I have not mentioned , but I will , when a woman messes her pants with Diarrhea , the runny mess goes into your urinary tract opening , I was full of poop and got a severe bladder infection. I had to use an enema syring and squirt warm water up there to clean out the mess.So ladies , be sure you don't get an infection because of this.Pull up's sound great , but they still have draw backs I think.How to change in public if there is no place to change ? This is so stressfull thinking about all of this.

 

Hi Glenda,You may want to try a vaginal douche. Made specially for cleansing "in there".

Hope you're feeling better!

 

Glenda, you're not alone. One day I was WH Smiths, a bookstore/stationery store in my town when I walked 2 steps and then I went.

Just a sharp little pain and then the waterfall. Thank G-d I was friendly with one of the women who worked there. She took me upstairs to their staff loo. You try walking up stairs trying not to go and with my knickers falling down with poo. I cleaned up the best I could and then went home.It was terrible though. I could just imagine everyone that I got near smelling my accident. It isn't easy trying to clean up in those little stalls.I have bought pull-ups but I hate the idea of having to wear them everytime I go out which is every day.I don't eat a thing before I go out but I still have problems.

 

Hi Divinity , I am talking about the actual urinary tract opening itself. (not vaginal )One time when my runs were bad , the diarrhea seeped up the urinary tact opening and I got a bad bladder infection.I went to the pharmacy today 4/15 and priced the Pull up's.My goodness they are expensive and you don't get alot of them.I didn't buy any yet. I may try to price them "on-line" , and see if I can get a better deal.Glenda

 

Descartesmum,You poor dear that must have been terrible for you.I guess my worst attack was in the crowded elevator. You could hear every bang and plop.The stares we just dreadfull. The nose holding really made me want to cry.

 

Try Walmart.. they are always cheaper then most drug stores and supermarkets...

 

Look for coupons in the sunday newspapers. Also, there are undergarments that use elastic straps made by Depend. They are cheaper. They may be enough for you to use. Check them out.

 

I don't know if ther is something similar in the states but here in the UK we have an organisation called RADAR. It sells to disabled people special keys for special disabled toilets. That key has saved me many a time when you have to go to the loo but there is a long line for the normal ones. These special toilets are locked and are much bigger with their own sink, which makes cleaning so much easier and less embarassing.There are also special cards that say that you suffer from a disease that makes going to the toilet a 'now' thing.Carol

 

glendaim sorry this happened to you! anyhow, maybe you should try depends, and not eating or drinking anything a couple of hours before you go to the store. when i go out, i never ever eat anything at all, plus i take meds. hope that helps you out.

 

I am seriously considering getting depends or something simular to them.I can't keep messing my pants in public like I do All the time.I try not to eat or drink anything before I go out. If I know my bowles are acting up , I take Imodium , or Lomotil before I leave.

 

Glenda, I feel for you. It's horrible, and I know how you feel; I just want to curl up and die sometimes. Plus, I have a job! Several times I have not made it to the bathroom. As well as the D I have no "pucker power" left either! So I can't even squeeze my cheeks to try to hold it in! Today is Friday and tomorrow morning I am participating in a 3 mile walk for the Cure and I am already nervous. I won't eat tonight and I will take Immodium as a preventive, but as you all know, no guarantee. Glenda, bite the bullet and get the pull ups. I haven't yet, but I know it won't be long. My heart, thoughts and prayers are with you! Thank God I found this board. All of you are my saving grace!

 

Just wanted to say I'm so sorry you experienced this and have a hard time leaving the house. My heart goes out to you. About the pull-ups, maybe you could order them online and have them delivered to your home? That way you don't have the issue of having a checker and others in line seeing you buy them?

 

Yah I totally understand about the embarassement factor, there have been so many times that i havn't made it. You litterally have to go through a whole roll cleaning up. Even worse is when your in a rush so you run into a stall not realizing there's no toilet paper and you have to wait till someone comes along and gives you some and they only give you little bit and then yuo have to ask them for more, alot more. Just the other day i had an accident and it happened in my own home. I'm not even safe in my home anymore arrrggg. I had absolutely no warning except the normal stomach rumble wich i usually get so i didn't have any warning to run and when i did it was too late. From my living room to the bathroom is literally jsut up the stairs, as i was half way up the stairs i could feel it and there was nothing i could do to stop it. I was so close but not close enough. It leaked everywhere and even yes went up "there". I was in the biggest mess just getting to the toilet and then when i got there it went everywhere leaving me standing to finish and having to just throw my underwear away. I was so embarrased and no one was even home. I don't even know why I was embarassed in my own home but i was mortified. I told my b/f(whom I live with)what had happened in absolute and utter embarasment, he reassured me that he loved me and that he still loved me even though that was pretty grose! lol ! It's great to have a loving partner. Anyways nobody is alone with their embarrasing stories.

 

I have never run out of toilet paper yet.But I have gone thru a roll or 2 though.I've had to throw away panties that were new and so soiled I had no way to bring them home.Lately I have been "C" so I haven't had any accidents.I think my new pain med is giving me "C".I have a tumor disease and my spine is full of tumors that are horribly painfull.Doctor put me on MS Contin 30 mg's x 2 daily.Works great on the pain , makes me tired and sleepy though.